Gender is a wide and colorful spectrum , but unfortunately , many of our societal experiences with gender are the same ol' matter .
Recently, we asked the trans members of the BuzzFeed Community about the differences they noticed before and after transitioning. After all, trans people sometimes have a unique perspective on how society treats men, women, nonbinary, genderfluid, and non-gender-conforming people differently, having potentially had two or more gender experiences.
We received a ton of responses, so below are some of the most interesting and insightful ones.
Trans men who were AFAB noticed some differences in how they are perceived socially now, along with physical changes:
1.
" Four and a half geezerhood on [ testosterone ] here . I ’ve always been boyish , so my friend radical and fashion horse sense delay the same . The main change I notice was how others treat me . I get asked to facilitate move stuff more and do n’t get narrate to ' smile more ' or get leer at by strangers , which is such a blessing I did n’t even consider .
Physically , I ’m strong , my proportions changed , and my animal foot grew and height increase . T did n’t make me aggressive , just very * excitable * . Overall , I am so bloody happy I made the decision to modulation , no matter if people have negative belief on my identity . I am bed and cherished still , and my genial health has skyrocketed over the last four years . "
— witchystar55
Gender is a wide and colorful spectrum, but unfortunately, many of our societal experiences with gender are the same ol' thing.
2.
" FTM , transition at 19 . To be honest , I have n’t notice that much difference in how masses plow me . The grownup remainder is that hormone-replacement therapy has made myemotionsa peck firm , and I ’m right smart more surefooted . It ’s also weirdly difficult to yell — apparently , it has something to do with hormones changing your tear ducts . "
— wes7887
3.
" I transitioned from distaff to male , and the biggest strong-arm dispute I ’ve notice are in how my body processes being cold and needing to pee . Before , when I was in either of those situations , they felt IMMEDIATE and UNBEARABLE . Being on testosterone makes them both thing where I ’m like , ' I should deal with that at some tip , ' but it does n’t postulate to be NOW .
Also , mass like to talk about how much more noetic men ’s clothing size are , but I have n’t found that to be true at all . A 31 - column inch waist match me very other than in different firebrand and even different expressive style in the same brand . "
— anonymous
4.
" A lot of my friends have completely forgotten that I ’m not a cis male person and will let the cat out of the bag / jocularity about certain thing . And when I bring up something from my past about being raised a girl or not having a dick , they are beat , attempt to rack their brain around how that ’s possible , LOL . "
5.
" Trans man here . I am honestly so shocked by how much easy life is for me now that I ’m amply passing . I ’m process with so much more respect , and I no longer feel unsafe in most public areas . I do n’t know if this is the same for every trans gentleman’s gentleman , but I really do find that now I am a military man , the world palpate structured to benefit me only . I ’m not inherently glad about this , obviously . I ’m just always reminded of how genuinely awe-inspiring living can be for women . "
6.
" I am treated all differently [ than ] before my transition . To everyone , I was just one of those girls that always attend out with the boys . A major hoyden . Once I started hormone , I felt more like myself , and finally , everyone was able to start see who I saw all along . It was much harder before I pass . For those who do n’t have it off , ' lead ' is when a trans person is seen as a cis person . Once I begin take place , I was more welcome into manly spaces .
Very few citizenry at my current workplace know my trans condition . I am seen as a Commonwealth of Independent States male consistently for the first time in my life . It opened me up to a world of guy talking , which is wild . I honestly cerebrate guy lecture was a made - up thing in movies . But it ’s genuine , and I ’m here to tell you that there are certain things world will not say in ' interracial party . ' After being at my work for almost two years , it does n’t unnerve me anymore . "
7.
" I ’m over 30 and out as FtM for three years . I absolutely love that unknown are no longer asking and judging me about youngster ( ' Do you have any / why not / when / who ’s gon na take maintenance of you afterward ? ' ) . I also experience much more ego - assure , nobody is secondly - guessing my technical competence ( I work in IT ) , and as an university extension , I am not second - guessing myself , either . I truly palpate much more at comfort and comfortable , and I ’m happier . I also do n’t hesitate to speak up for either myself or others , and interestingly , I ’ve become much less tolerant of misogyny and sexism in general . "
8.
" This may be silly — or just plain obvious — but the men ’s restroom is almost always in worse circumstance than the fair sex ’s comfort station . I ’ve seen unspeakable things squeeze in potty , smeared on wall , and pooled at the bottom of stall . It reminds me of that saying , ' You never know what you have until it ’s gone . ' I miss relatively clean public toilet facility , but I am also way too dysphoric - ly stubborn to utilise the women ’s outside of infrangible exigency . "
9.
" Commonwealth of Independent States man really do n’t seem to wash their hand in bathrooms , at ALL . "
10.
" I was assigned female person at birth and begin transition in my early twenty . I start ' expire ' as a straight , cisgender male person and noticed how I felt safe walking alone . People did n’t bother me as much . I noticed that when I did grouping assignments , people would heed to me more and talk over me less . This all actuate a lot of feelings inside me , and it helped me figure out through a batch of internalized misogynism . If it has n’t already been done , someone require to write a paper on the dispute in polish between the men ’s and fair sex ’s restrooms . The men ’s room is generally a mess , and middle contact or immediate greetings seem out . I drop the camaraderie of the women ’s room all the time — the communion of tampons , a immediate heads - up if the toilet newspaper is low , and a shoulder joint to cry on during a boozy meltdown . Now it ’s one stand that ’s being used by someone watching YouTube forte on their phone and Zyn pouches line the urinals . Love it . "
11.
" I transition from female to male person . There are a quite a little of differences , but one I did not wait is that — before I passed as a man — I would declare oneself railway car ride home to strange women my years I saw walking on the road in my town , especially in the cold winter . Now that I go across as a man , I sense as though they would directly take up I intended something bad ( graspable from their position ) , so I just keep repel and hope they get home good . The instant solidarity and connection I formerly experienced with women is not as readily experienced with men . I had to come out as merry to my managers at piece of work just to get them to break teasing me for ' play ' with the distaff receptionist my years , whom I ’m ally with outside of employment . Literally can not be champion with adult female or go out to dinner with them without everyone assuming we ’re a mates . "
12.
" I ’m transitioning FtM and passing most of the fourth dimension . woman , when sing about generative issue or periods , pat my knee and say , ' You do n’t have to concern about that . ' Doctor of the Church take me more gravely . I get few smiles back on the street . Uber and Lyft driver do n’t endeavor to make humble talk , which I love . I still get clocked on the phone , and it ’s uncivilized how condescending hoi polloi are . "
13.
" I ’ve never see the men vs. women part ; it ’s more that before I transitioned , I was catcalled a lot . [ Now that I ’ve ] transition , I get get out alone , which is endearing . The downside was I got a lot of molestation : things thrown at me by strangers in the street , threats , being filmed and chivvy . I ’ve also faced discrimination when applying for job . "
14.
" I ’ve find quite a few conflict . As a woman , men paid unwanted attention to me . When I corrected them , they ’d laugh it off claiming it was harmless . If I needed aid , men would come do it for me as oppose to establish me how good to do a job , or just help the supernumerary muscular tissue I may postulate . "
15.
" I am a transgender man who transitioned about 10 days ago . The first matter I noticed right forth , especially being more of an opinionated ' grind ' character , is that I no longer had to bring backing to a discourse . I did n’t have to google things to prove I was right about something . People just mind to me and believed me when I said things . It was a whiplash ! Not that everything I say is always correct , but people would in reality engage with it instead of just being like , ' Oh , sweetie , you do n’t know what you ’re talk about . ' Just in general , people treat me like I was another soul on the same point and not in an infantilizing means .
I did mourn the loss somewhat of not being see as a terror to women , though . I felt like I fall back the power to communicate with char my historic period without them being guard or shady , but I do n’t find fault them at all . I was taught to do the accurate same thing . "
16.
" FtM : Far less emotion ( have n’t cry in 15 years ) , far more body hair . :P
One affair that stands out was that when I was dining out with my ex - husband ( not ex-wife yet then , patently ) , pre - transition , they would automatically give him the bill , and as presently as they clocked me as male person , they asked if we require to split . adult female are more weary of me now , I sense less prosperous complimenting both humans and women for how that might come across , hoi polloi do n’t disrupt me nearly as often now , and I feel like I ’m take on more seriously , even if I ’m spue the same bullshit . "
17.
" I transitioned FtM nine class ago . One thing I will notice about the ' men vs. women ' environments is that it is so much less scary in the Earth passing as a man . Men leave me alone or say , ' What ’s up valet de chambre ? ' whereas when I was a girl , I was panic-stricken to take the air down the street . I feel very lucky to be who I am , but I think the humanity has a lot to instruct . Trans hoi polloi are just people . That ’s it . "
18.
" I ’ve apply to jobs under my dead name and birth gender and never got a call back or any form of recognition that they received it . Applied to the same jobs as my new name and current gender and moved on to the question appendage so tight . "
Trans women noticed a lot of the same differences, but on the other side:
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" I transition MtF. One of the biggest differences was how little I start to find . Taking endocrine , shrinking muscles , and always being frightened of what people are thinking about you and how you look . I ’m 6 foot . , but I would feel lilliputian when out with people . "
20.
" hands set off open up door for me , which I ’m felicitous for now that I ’ve lost my male child forte ; I had to relearn basic tasks like opening leaden doors . man are much more likely to help oneself me with physically difficult things , warn me something is heavy , and unfortunately , mansplain and give unneeded assistance with non - physical undertaking . I ’ve had a few gaseous state station clerks ask for my number , or say I ’m pretty and ask if I have a boyfriend . Ewwphoria at first . It quickly got onetime .
Women are much more well-disposed and willing to help me , like offer to stand guard while I practice a public toilet facility that wo n’t lock if I do the same for her or help me labor my car out of a parking space when it would n’t start out . Now they usually make eye liaison and smile as we pass each other ; I did n’t realize before just how separated these two gender are in public , but now I ’m finally link the half of the population that I should have been with from the beginning .
Physically , the modification oestrogen made to my body and mind finger perfectly wonderful . There are things I did n’t expect , like my feet shrinking and take in to bribe lowly shoes , and my thighs and butt getting too big even to rive my man ’s trouser up all the way , never judgment buttoning them . I ’m so glad my body odor smell changed for the better and is rarely even present ; I can easy skip a rain shower or even two . Sunscreen is more important than ever , though , as is eating respectable if I want to feel well and outride in embodiment . And the loss of strength , wow … it was truthful what I heard about thinking you know what to expect , but being surprised when it happens ; nothing could have prepared me . I skin to enter a building a few time because opening doors is n’t even the same . "
— slaughterdog
21.
" I definitely can tell I am handle like less of a person after transitioning . I am MtF , and my ideas [ are ignored ] , but then when a male pronounce the same matter , they listen . "
22.
" I was a professional in the finance diligence for eight years and was a senior member of my section and seen as a dependent matter expert before I came out and begin transitioning ( MtF ) . My workplace was quite progressive and supportive , but when I changed my name and start using she / her pronouns , I noticed an immediate variety in the way client treated me . My expertness in my force field was of a sudden second - infer or query where I was the say-so before . "
23.
" Interestingly , my boy state me I ’m a far better mom than I ever was a dad ! "
24.
" As a trans woman , I have noticed that clothes shopping has become a lot more play , and I am begin to notice that I am starting to be pull in to both men and woman . "
Nonbinary people had their own set of observations, as well:
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" I ’m genderfluid and recently had top surgery . I do dress middling femme most of the sentence , but the fact that everyone seems to think that I still have to cover my chest even though there are no breast there anymore has me baffled ! I literally have the same chest as a FtM somebody , but because I salute femme , it ’s unfitting . So weird ! "
— chaoswitch
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" I feel infinitely better in terms of my overall upbeat . While dysphoria often can be touch to your personal feelings about your body , masses often underestimate the impact of societal dysphoria : the hurt caused not by your torso image but by being constantly misidentified in public . It was so depressing always being called ' ma’am ' in public no matter how I dressed or acted . I just was never read as manlike until I pop testosterone , and it ’s really nice not own people ’s incorrect August 15 thrown in my human face all the time .
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" I will say that one of my experiences as a mixed - wash nonbinary trans man is that my intervention has gotten a lot forged than when people thought I was a woman . I am Choctaw and Iraqi , and now that I am perceived as a man , I often confront an addition in racism .
Which is depressing poppycock , for trusted ! So let me enjoin you about the positive .
My father accepted me immediately . After I came out as trans , he came out asbisexual . We ’ve gone to Pride together multiple times and are able to be ourselves without care when we ’re with each other .
My fellow and I can share a closet . I have saved so much money on my wardrobe , it ’s unbelievable . And in regards to my beau , he has been sweet , compassionate , and intellect beyond feeling .
When I get on testosterone , my body stopped hurting . For most of my life history , I was a subsister of chronic infliction and fatigue . When I make on T , both of them went off . I talked to my doctor , and we did some tests . It turns out that for most of my liveliness , I suffered from a endocrine asymmetry due to aromatase deficiency . Getting on T literally made my aliveness easier . It also pass to me getting essay and recover out that I am intersex , which is something I keep back with a fortune of pride . So , literally , because I am transgender and moved ahead with transitioning , my physical wellness improve DRASTICALLY , and I learned something about myself that explain what my pubescence was all about because it definitely was n’t typical .
I promise it gets better , especially if you move to a more accepting field , like I did recently . All in all , it ’s been a beautiful journey , and I can not wait to see what the time to come has in store . "
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