" I feel it ’s unjust I perpetually have to give only 5 - 6hr of eternal sleep for myself so that he could have a peaceful eight hour . "
The dynamics of women in their early twenties dating older men can get tricky, especially regarding which partner’s wants and needs are prioritized in the relationship.
That’s why I, and thousands of others, were fascinated by this story by a 24-year-old woman,Cucumbertrees, who wonders if she’s selfish for not wanting to leave her bed and sleep on a loveseat/floor every morning so her boyfriend can sleep comfortably. Here’s the fullstory: “My boyfriend (male, 35) works overnight, and every morning between 4 a.m. and 6 a.m. when he’s off, I (24-year-old female) am asked to leave the room so he can receive a good rest. Am I selfish for not wanting to leave the bedroom when he comes in from work?”
“He says I’m being selfish whenever I don’t leave the room, he says me sleeping beside him makes the room extremely hot and that my movements wake him up.”
" But sleeping out in the living room for another few 60 minutes is uncomfortable , and I hate it . It ’s extremely brighter than our way , as our bedroom has blackout curtains . "
“The couch isn’t big enough to lay on (it’s technically a loveseat), and the floor is way too hard on my body.”
" We own an melodic line mattress that I could slumber on , but we also have a cat that would toss off that child in an instant . We also speak about bribe a couch , but he ’s not unforced to contribute to purchase a sofa because ' I ’m the one who want it . ' "
So what do I do in this situation?? I feel it’s unfair I constantly have to sacrifice only five to 6 hours of sleep for myself so that he could have a peaceful eight hours."
" Am I ill-timed in this office ? And if I am , how should I persist in to go about it ? "
This was my face after I finished reading. Well, this relationship is a hot mess, and the fact that he won’t even help buy a couch for her to sleep on says A LOT.
" Move out,“Live_Journalist_916said . “I would evoke that when he leaves for work , you pack a purse and go last out with a friend . rent him come home to an empty house , and then he can get all the sleep he desire because his ask is laughable and selfish , " userannod75agreed .
“Girl, why are you letting this man treat you like Cinderella’s step sisters treated Cinderella? Break up,” userRevolutionary_AD1846said.
" My guess is this selfish behavior and gaslighting is n’t specify to just the eternal rest place . If you twist off your rose - colored glasses , it credibly permeates the whole relationship . "
A few people called out the tricky dynamics of a 35-year-old man dating a 24-year-old woman.
" This seems to be a pretty common report with pair that have a ' braggy ' age difference . For some grounds , these older dudes find the motive to agitate their younger partner around when they feel like it . Tell him to go sleep on the sofa or get a hammock or whatever . Why are his needs more important than yours ? " userGabagoolMutzadellsaid . “There ’s a ground he ’s 35 year of age and choose to snag a 24 - twelvemonth - erstwhile . ordinarily , there ’s a red flag when guys can not vet or obtain women their own age , " userGuiderail - MothQueenagreed .
“This is your cue to leave the relationship. He only cares about his rest,” usersharpassanarrowwrote.
" If he in truth cared about you , he ’d reckon forward to cuddling up to you when he got home . "
Some people sympathized with the boyfriend’s lack of sleep but still called him out for his handling of the situation with his girlfriend.
" I can sympathize with having an odd eternal sleep schedule and needing to count on out a elbow room to get enough sleep . I would regard that as a ME problem , though , " userFigNinja write . " If I needed to do something like arrange up a freestanding daybed somewhere and sleep on that a distich of night a calendar week , I would take the opening . I would n’t require a pardner to sleep on the sofa or the floor for me . "
“Some couples have trouble sharing a bed, but they can still have a healthy relationship because they know how to find a solution that works for both of them,” usercharmer143agreed.
" complain you out and not participating in recover a solution to your problem other than to complain you out is selfish of your swain . To be perfectly good , that ’s not the demeanor of someone who cares about your well - being . "
Overall.
This man is a violent flag .
