" We started consume the ' our past relationships ' talk , and she severalize me about her high shoal and college boyfriends . Then , she admitted that she cuckold on her college boyfriend … "
Dating in 2024 is no easy feat, and I don’t know about you, but just the thought of going on a first date makes me anxious.
Learning about someone’s past actions in relationships is even more nerve-wracking as you get to know them more. This redditor who was newly dating someonesharedwhat happened to them in the early dating stages in ther/AITAHsubreddit, and let’s just say it kind of makes me want to give up on love.
The OP started by written material , " I ( 24 M ) have been individual for almost two years . My ex - lady friend cheated on me , which really did a identification number on my self - respect , and it took a long time for me to bring around from it . Even after I patched myself up , it has still been hard for me to put myself out there and attempt to suffer Modern people just out of a world-wide fearfulness of being hurt again .
The story jump about two month ago when I was out with some friends . My airless booster Hannah ( 24F ) ( not using real epithet , evidently ) invite me and some of her other friends to a bar for drinks . One of these champion was a young fair sex , Katie ( 24F ) , who I think was jolly cunning . I worked up the nerve to talk to her , and we had a comely conversation . I recollect she might have been flirting with me , but I chalked it up to wishful thinking and did n’t get her number or anything . "
They continued writing, “A few days later when I saw Hannah again, she told me that Katie had asked about me/if I was single. I was surprised, flattered, but primarily pretty nervous because I hadn’t really waded into that territory for a while. I didn’t think I was ready to date again but Hannah pointed out that it had been almost two years since the cheating incident. I hadn’t been on a single date or seen a woman in any capacity in the interim, and it would be good for me to at least try to go on one date, and if I decided that I still wasn’t ready, I wouldn’t be obligated to go on another.”
The Redditor continued by explain that he and Katie go on to text for a calendar week before finally go on a first coffee date , which lead to a second particular date . Then , it went downhill from there .
" It started to go bad on another coffee engagement , almost a month after our first date . We start having the ' our past relationships ' talking , and she tell me about her gamy school and college boyfriend . Then , she admitted that she screw on her college swain .
At this decimal point , I stood up , told her I did n’t think it would wreak out between us and left . I did n’t mean for it to befall so abruptly , but I went into some kind of fight - or - flight fashion and panicked . I was ask aback at the fact that this girl I like and had been expend so much quality time with was a cheater like my X . "
take note : Some of this submission has been edit for distance and/or uncloudedness .
Sheesh, that was a doozy of a story! Honestly, even I’m a little conflicted about how to approach this situation. One commenter shared some helpful advice.
This person brought up very valid points about friend, Hannah.
Love the advice of going to therapy to heal old wounds.
And this commenter was acting like Switzerland, which is fair.
