" He then began show everyone at the table picture of her Instagram … "
In a Reddit post shared tor/relationship_advice, site useru/PrudentBusiness215asked, “My boyfriend (36M) admitted he thinks my sister (27F) is prettier than me (29F). How do I overcome his comment?”
The original poster (OP)went on to say, “I have gone my whole life battling my jealousy of my sister. I love her and only want her to be happy, but being the less attractive sister has stirred up so many insecurities in me since we were young.” She added, “I would be considered ‘cute’ and I don’t mean my sister is just a little bit prettier than me. I mean she is a head-turner, could blend in perfectly in aVictoria’s Secretfashion show kind of stunning.”
She says that her sister"has the height, body, and face. She gets to live an extremely thrilling life because of what being beautiful brings, dates powerful and famous men, and gets spoiled with vehicles and luxuries. I mean it’s just night and day difference how the stunning people of the world live compared to the rest of us."
“I have a normal life working nine-to-five. Growing up being compared to that and overlooked in every aspect next to her has damaged my self-esteem beyond repair. Now I love my boyfriend and he loves me, but he made a detrimental comment that I’m struggling to move past,“she went on to say.
Then,she mentions thatwhile she loves her boyfriend, he recently made a comment she simply can’t get past. “We were out with a bunch of his friends I was meeting for the first time, and everyone had been drinking,” she said. “I was asked about my siblings and at some point my boyfriend loudly proclaimed, ‘If you guys think (my name) is pretty you should see her sister!’ He then began showing everyone at the table photos of her Instagram and of course, everyone was in awe. I felt so small. I now knew my own boyfriend also found her more attractive than me.”
She ended her post by asking, “I brought it up afterwards and he, of course, backpedalled and stated he didn’t mean it that way. But it’s been two months now and the comment won’t leave my mind. I can’t escape the constant comparisons to her and I don’t think I ever will. It’s exhausting. How do I overcome these insecurities?”
“Not only is he too old tonotknow better, but it’s not even a foot-in-mouth situation. He didn’t just casually acknowledge that OP’s sister was beautiful — he basically insulted his girlfriend and proceeded to show off her sister to his friends for their approval. If this is how he acts in front of his girlfriend, one can only imagine what he acts like behind her back,“another opined.
Yet another Redditorwanted OP to steer clear of this guy forever. “Imagine what the future will be like with this guy: ‘hey everybody, come check out this gorgeous woman I know! No, not my wife — her sister!'” they wrote. “He actually pulled out his phone to show off another woman at a meeting where he was introducinghis girlfriend. This one isn’t the one OP. I can assure you the right one around the corner will be mortified when you tell him this story.”
Others commiserated but ultimately stressed that OP didn’t have to deal with that. “My sister is a gorgeous redhead. Undeniably prettier than me and always has been. My ex pointed it out off and on, then hit on her the minute we separated,“a commenter wrote.They added, “Fast forward to my second husband of fifteen years, and my single sister being asked why she’s single. Her response is, ‘I’m waiting for someone who looks at me the way my brother-in-law looks at my sister.'”
Shout out tor/relationship_adviceandu/PrudentBusiness215for having this discussion.
Note : entry have been edited for distance and/or lucidity .
