Sometimes it hits you like a ton of brick that things are not going to work out .

If you’ve ever had to break off a relationship, then you know that it usually happens because you have a moment where you realize that there is no saving this relationship and you want out.

Recently, Reddit userSshmiffwanted to know about those moments when theyasked: “When did you realize that your partner was not, in fact, ‘the one’?”

1.“I woke up one day, and really asked myself: ‘Can I live like this the rest of my life?’ I felt like a babysitter, a maid, and a mother all into one before I ever felt like a girlfriend. I took on all the responsibilities of doing simple chores and cleaning. Like cleaning piss off the toilet seat from him and his friends or asking him to take the garbage out (when you can clearly see it needs to be taken out). Then, he would get upset when I wasn’t in the mood to be intimate. There’s loads more, but that’s one of the biggest issues I had.”

" I feel disrespected , used , and like I was n’t his equal . I ’m in a happy relationship now . He helps me . We fix meal , eat together , and clean together . It just puts into position how terrible my past tense family relationship was . I ’m in the end well-chosen . "

— Samjonesbro

2.“When she introduced me to her rich ex-boyfriend. Which then led her to reveal to me that she had actually sent him nudes during their prior relationship. I didn’t mind, though. He was her boyfriend before me, after all. Their past was their past, and I was actually glad she trusted me with that information. Then I asked her why I hadn’t gotten something like that yet, and the answer was, ‘Well, maybe if you could afford me nice gifts, I’d have sent you something by now.’ Boy, did I IMMEDIATELY realize she was not the one.”

— Riddle_Snowcraft

3.“I dated this guy throughout high school, and he wanted to get married the moment I turned 18. We honestly had a real love for each other, but I was already reticent to get married that young and wanted to graduate college first.”

" His best booster got wed when they were 18/19 - ish , and because he was in the bridal party I sit down alone and just had a jolt of panic run through me during the ceremony . I did n’t want my life to be that way . I did n’t desire to get tie the moment I check being a shaver , the immediately have children , and stay in my hometown forever . All my romantic lovemaking for him disappear because I bring in he was stress to guilt me into deliver a life history I did n’t want so he could have the liveliness he wanted .

It took a while for me to do breaking up with him , but I knew I postulate to from that consequence . "

— strongerthongs

A torn photograph of a smiling couple, each with one arm around the other. The tear separates the image vertically between them

4.“When I felt a sense of dread when coming home to her. Or when I was at home and she was coming home to me, wondering what triviality she would be angry about this time.”

— BubbhaJebus

5.“I woke up next to him. Suddenly, I realized reality. It had been 17 years of me working hard and him justifying hardly ever working. I nudged him and said (bravely), ‘I want a divorce. We can talk about the details in the morning.'”

— ZealousidealDegree4

6.“When she saw no issue with the fact that she would be texting her ex-husband (now current husband, if that makes things clear), giving him emotional support — particularly when we were watching TV together or driving to a restaurant for date night. Her excuse, ‘I still consider him my best friend (she may have said one of my best friends), and I don’t think there is anything wrong with talking to a friend.’ Five years later, we divorced and she remarried him nine months after that.”

— DantheOutdoorsman

7.“When I celebrated their growth, but they were angry at mine.”

— Mystery - Bass - Man

8.“When I found out that one of my close friends had suddenly died and I burst into tears, to which he said, ‘What are you insecure about this time?’ And when I said I just found out my friend died, he turned around and walked out of the room. The next day, I was talking to his mum about it in the kitchen, and she was comforting me, to which he again said, ‘Can you stop being insecure?’ and his mum practically tore him in half with words.”

" I left him soon after , and I ’m now in a very happy and healthy family relationship with someone who also avail pilot my heartbreak with me . I miss his parents sometimes though ; they were endearing people and deserved a good boy than him . "

— L - Mariee

9.“When I went to the airport to pick her up, flowers in hand, and stood there until the last of the luggage had been picked up before I realized she hadn’t even gotten on the plane.”

— ListerfiendLurks

10.“When he decided to cheat on me while I was dealing with my brother’s recent suicide.”

— bluefrog1412

11.“There was a picture she painted of me years ago that hung on our wall. It was beautiful and was like a whole bunch of blue triangles that made out my face, and it’s my favorite thing of me that’s ever existed. Then one day, after a couple of bad years, she got into a relatively speaking small argument with me over something and started freaking out, tore the painting off the wall, and destroyed it. The argument was so pointless I couldn’t even remember what it was about a week later.”

" I know it sounds dumb , but when she paint that for me at the beginning of our relationship , it mean everything to me . After multiple awful class , that was when I knew things could never go back , and that house painting and double I had of myself and our love and kinship would forever be broken and unfixable . "

— Somewhere - Plane

12.“She hated when I wasn’t with her, and she wasn’t happy when I was.”

— ThisOnePlaysTooMuch

13.“Man, I have lived with this for like a year and damn. I think she got addicted to the security of having me around but didn’t actually like me. It was the most traumatic breakup I’ve ever lived through, but it was the best relationship decision I have ever made.”

— heyitsthatguygoddamn

14.“When I realized that every time she went away for an extended time, instead of missing her, I was excited that I got to have some alone time and do stuff with my friends instead of her.”

— Illerios1

15.“When he’d rather follow what his parents would say to him. He always needed his parents for simple decision-making. I, too, have a good relationship with my parents, but I grew up independently. I wouldn’t run to my parents if I can solve the problem myself.”

— gvdomme

16.“When I realized the idea of marrying him one day secretly disappointed me.”

— NightDreamer73

17.“When he couldn’t even name ONE thing that he liked about me after four years of him constantly asking for reassurance from my end. I don’t know how I stayed for so long in the relationship, constantly begging for him to actually like me even when we were together.”

— oneluckyfish

18.“When I got an STI after 12 years of marriage and was faithful to her the entire time. It went away after a week of antibiotics. But I became a different person that day. I don’t know if I like who I am now.”

— dasaigaijin

19.“When he picked me up from the airport after a few weeks trip, I was so excited to see him, and he didn’t even get out of the car. He just shouted at me to hurry up and get in because he didn’t want to pay for parking. Didn’t even hug me.”

— hippowolf12

20.“We never had an ‘okay day.’ We had amazing days and awful days. Never just a nice, okay one. Think of always manic or always depressed, with no breaks. It was tough, but I had to break off.”

— VeryNorcal

21.“Hadn’t had sex in over six months. So, decided to go down on her when we woke up to rekindle the spark out whatever. She didn’t move. I looked up and asked what was wrong and she started crying. Finally admitted to my suspicions. After eight years together and a move across the country to chase our dreams, she had been cheating on me for months with her boss’s son. Straight up had a boyfriend behind my back.”

— eatMYcookieCRUMBS

22.“I was going with him to my friend’s destination wedding. While getting ready with my friend, I curled my hair and asked them if it looked good. My gal friend said, ‘Oh, you missed a piece right here,’ and helped me get it done with the rest. He immediately groaned and said, ‘Ugh, why’d you tell her??? We could have made fun of her together!’ Something about his joy at the thought of embarrassing me in front of my friends really just made me realize what a true asshole he was. I broke up with him as soon as we got back home.”

— WorkOutDrinkMore

23.“She was away for college when suddenly she stopped responding to my calls and texts. Turns out she got pregnant by someone else. I had been with her for five years.”

— thr33prim3s

24.“When I caught her in bed with my brother”

— cmdrmcgarrett

25.And lastly, “This isn’t a sad or dramatic one: We had a really good girlfriend and boyfriend type relationship, but when shit got real and long-term commitment (marriage, buying a house, having a baby) peered over the horizon, we both freaked out and bailed. Catalyst was my mate’s wedding towards the end of the relationship, and I was embarrassed at how lairy and drunk she was being. She was annoyed that I was being no fun and wouldn’t dance (there was no one else on the dancefloor!).”

" We ’re still friends now . My wife is nothing like my ex-husband , and my x ’s new partner is nothing like me . Everyone imply made the right decision . "

— SammyMacUK

You can read the original thread onReddit.

Note : Some answer have been edited for length and/or clarity .

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