" I feel like I give up my puerility elbow room too presently . Now , I ’m a burnout grownup with very trivial motive to do more than the au naturel minimum . "
Being a kid is all about making mistakes, and sometimes you learn the hardest lessons growing up.
We recentlyaskedtheBuzzFeed Communityto share what they learned after a childhood mishap. Here are some of the most memorable responses:
1.“This is going to sound both very lame and very dramatic. I didn’t love going to friends' houses or talking on the phone. I had a friend I adored spending time with at school, but every time she’d invite me over or call me, I’d weasel out of it. She’d been sick on and off the entire school year, as in missing over a month here and there. The story was she had pneumonia she couldn’t shake. Near the end of the summer, she called while I was out with my grandma on a Monday night. I never called her back because I hated phone calls.”
2.“When I was 3, I listened to an older neighborhood kid who told me to put my hand in the hinges of a large gate so they could close it on my hand. I have a permanently deformed hand that can’t be fixed.”
" I have a strong splanchnic response to anything in a medical scope , especially when there ’s blood , and have horrible medical anxiety that has had me in and out of therapy . I often wonder if I could have act in the medical subject if my early exposure had n’t been so profoundly disconfirming . "
— mauraudingbeastmachine
4.“I was 12 or 13. This was the dawn of the internet when chatrooms were a big thing. I was using my mom’s computer and had no idea what site I was on, but I was obsessed with heavy metal, specifically Sebastian Bach from Skid Row. I was in a chatroom called ‘Boys with Long Hair,’ chatting with a boy who said he was 16. The conversation turned sexual quickly. I didn’t know how to handle it since it was new territory for me, but at first, I felt flattered. I gave him my address and phone number so he could call or write me. He did call one day, and he sounded old, which freaked me out. I made an excuse and got off the phone.”
" The next time he called , my dad do . He go through the cap and threatened the cat . So many fearsome things could have happened that did n’t ( give thanks goodness ) . I learned to be more measured with my fundamental interaction online and leave that to my nestling . I appreciate that nipper get that message now , but the internet is still a very grave berth for children . "
— Mo , California
5.“Do not, I repeat, do not use a stapler on your finger thinking it’s going to staple AROUND your finger.”
6.“Don’t chew on pens, pencils, or rubbers. I hope I don’t need to explain why.”
— tylertravers
7.“Always make sure your shirt doesn’t just pop open. Long story short, my shirt popped open, and I didn’t notice. I accidentally flashed my crush. Oops.”
8.“Magnets and televisions do NOT mix!”
— hobbitgirl96
9.“Accidentally using a knife to try and fish out jammed bread from the toaster. This seems like such a no-brainer. But for a kid? It seemed like a feasible solution. When my mother screamed and lunged toward me in horror to prevent electrocution, it traumatized me. Now, I can’t make toast without recalling that day. It permanently scarred me, and I’ll never do it again.”
10.“I really wish I had not given into peer pressure. I started smoking at 12 because a ‘best friend’ essentially told me to smoke or I wouldn’t be cool. God, what an idiot I was. It’s OK to say no. It’s OK to not be cool. It’s OK to never have a drink, a toke, a hit, or a bump in your life. Please know your worth and stand up for yourself, especially when it comes to your health.”
" You ’re young once , but you are not new and ' invincible ' forever . You do get up . Everything you do in your teens and 20s will catch up with you , and it can be very scary . Now , at almost 40 , I get lung X - rays every few years , observe every symptom , etc . "
— morgan_le_slay
11.“I lied to my third-grade teacher. It was over something minor he slightly scolded me for. I went home and cried to my mom, but asked her not to email him because it wasn’t a big deal. My mom emailed him, and the next day the lie was uncovered. I had to apologize which was embarrassing and had him as a teacher for the rest of the year. Our relationship was damaged, and I felt he didn’t trust me. I learned to tell the truth, not be so dramatic, and that lying hurts people.”
12.“Don’t trust every adult in your life, even if they’re your family and are supposed to be wiser and smarter than you. I wrongly believed when I was a child that my grandparents would never try to mislead me or cause me harm in any way. There are reasons why they’re cut off from my life completely and pretend that they don’t have the faintest idea why.”
— runerlove
13.“Honestly, I wish I had been less worried about school and getting good grades. I wish I had done more fun stuff and enjoyed life more. Those good grades didn’t get me anywhere in life, but the anxiety I developed from the need to excel in school has stuck with me all through adulthood. I also wish I hadn’t started working as early as I did. I feel like I gave up my childhood way too soon. Now, I’m a burnout adult with very little motivation to do more than the bare minimum.”
14.“I so, so desperately wish I hadn’t listened to my pediatrician when she said that I, a growing 10-year-old within a normal weight range, was getting ‘stocky’ and needed to count calories, watch my weight, etc. I went from being a kid who didn’t care about my body, beyond using it to play and be active, to comparing myself to all my classmates, stretching out my shirts, and being obsessed with food. Enter high school, and that leads to a full-blown eating disorder, along with a myriad of other mental health issues.”
" I screwed up so much of my life in high school and college . I struggled with social natural process , panicked around food , and had my collegial athletic calling jump by several broken bones . Years later , I ’m just now reaching a full point where I ’m neutral about my body . There will believably always be bad days for the rest of my lifespan , and cycles where I struggle with my relationship with solid food . Listening to the words of that one doctor truly changed the entire path of my life and probably who I am today . "
— Anonymous
15.“The whole ‘just ignore the bullies and they’ll go away’ is the worst advice. If you ignore them, they will not go away. They will double down until you have a nervous breakdown. It happened to me in middle school. This taught me that I must stand up for myself no matter the cost.”
16.“I wish I’d been able to transition to life in America easier. I don’t think I had a close friend at any point in my school days. It somewhat messed up my life and my ability to carry conversations with people.”
— staylevelheaded
17.“I was afraid after a ride, and my mother laughed and mocked me. I was 5 or 6. Her laughing at my legit fear showed me myemotionswere ridiculous and she could not be trusted. So, it was all bottled until I moved away to college and exposed her to the rest of the family. We still hardly have a relationship, but that is OK since she is who she is: selfish.”
18.“I missed the entirety of sixth grade for medical reasons. There’s nothing wrong with that, but what I did wrong is that I didn’t do anything to catch up, which eventually led to repeating a grade years later. I guess the lesson is to do what you have to do, even though it might suck!”
— refaelreichmann
19.“I was always seen as the kid who acted older than everyone else and therefore was the ‘responsible and mature’ friend — and I was! But having most adults think that about me as a kid has affected me as an adult. People who knew me as a child are shocked when I do adult things. Drinking, online dating, or going to a club/bar are always met with, ‘Why would you want to do that? I wouldn’t have expected that from you!’ It’s not in a mean way; it just makes me feel a little guilty for doing things I want sometimes. I would tell my childhood self that you don’t need to be so mature in front of your parents. You could have some fun once in a while.”
20.“During the last year of primary school, you are asked to write down the names of three friends you want to be in the same class as when you go to secondary school. My best friend and I had a massive falling out on that day. I wrote her name on my list, but she didn’t write mine on hers. This meant we were split up into different classes and didn’t have any lessons together for two years. I had all sorts of trouble with the people I was in a class with, and I was badly bullied from the age of 12.”
" In year nine , my good friend and I were reunited in some classes , and our friendship was rekindled . However , the damage of all that intimidation was already done and did n’t go away . I now suffer from anxiety and massive ego - doubt , and I call back about how dissimilar it would have been had she and I not reason on that day . She is massively apologetic for what transpired , and we are still best friends today . What matters is I have her now , and I ’ll always be grateful for that . "
— catieferrarer
21.And lastly, “Never be afraid to be yourself, even if it makes you stand out. As a kid, I taught myself how to ‘dim my light’ to adapt to new environments and make friends. I’d intentionally shy away from opportunities that would put me in the spotlight to keep myself from being disliked by others.”
Note : Some response have been edited for duration and/or clarity .
