What are the " myth " about marriage that you wish you knew ?

Older adults, if you were married in the past and are now divorced, you may have some important experiences, lessons, and wisdom for younger adults — especially those considering marriage.

So, looking back, what are the myths about marriage that you think more people should know?

Maybe you went into the marriage expecting your spouse to fulfill all your needs. But now, you realize that’s an unfair expectation, and you believe it’s important to keep building your relationships with family and friends — in addition to your relationship with your partner.

People may think that couples therapy is a last resort when their marriage is having issues. But perhaps you’d encourage couples should seek out therapy even when their relationship is going well — and you wish you had done that in your previous marriage.

Or maybe you strongly disagree with the saying that “love is enough” for a successful marriage. While you loved your former spouse, you were not compatible, so now you realize how important effective communication, trust, effort, shared values, and more are for a healthy relationship.

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What are the “myths” about marriage that you wish you knew?

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