These millennials are demystifying the reason they do n’t want to have tike is alone because they ’re selfish .
Parenting is a life-changing, rewarding, and amazing experience, but not everyone wants to be a parent. There are many, many personal reasons why adults choose to be childfree, ranging from not being able to financially afford it to simply not wanting to have one because they enjoy their lives without a kid.
Recently, Reddit userEnvironmental-Eye373was curious about why people don’t have kids when theyaskedin theMillennialssubreddit: “Is anyone here still childfree?”
1.“I am a 33M and have no kids. I always said that if I was going to have any kids, I would have to have an amazing partner for the journey. I have not found anyone who fits that criteria for me, so I have no kids.”
— fragmentsmusic7
" I have an awesome partner … but , I just do n’t find the impulse or the pull . I ’m 34 . "
— rude - Wasabi-7154
2.“I’m 43, and spayed. I can be stable for one person but not two.”
— boxing_coffee
" Remember to spay and castrate your over 40s people "
— kirk - o - bain
3.“Yep. I’m 35 and had my vasectomy done last year — no kids for me.”
— Myspacecutie69
" I ’m just a slight bit younger , and I also did mine last year . No declination . peculiarly as I was just late lounging in a nice hotel hot vat and hear to some fiddling kids shrieking while playing in the conterminous pool , making the same sounds that I conceive of people would make while being dismembered with a chainsaw . "
— engr77
4.“I am 36 here and have no kids. I helped raise my sister’s kids while I was a teen and knew then that I didn’t want any of my own.”
— Agreeable - Survey-631
" I ’m 36 here as well . I had to help oneself raise my crony ’s kids when I was 16 or so . That was enough for me . "
— No_Decision9932
5.“My fiancé and I are in our mid-30s and have agreed that we don’t want kids. The planet is dying, the state of the world is bad, and the idea of going through pregnancy and birth fucking terrifies me. Plus, we’re perfectly content being selfish with our time and money. We have nieces, and we havedogs. We’re good.”
— sightedwolf
6.“I’m almost 42 and no kids. I have two dogs that are my children. I have a niece who’s almost 13, and I enjoy being an aunt. The state of the world would be too much for me, I worry what type of world my niece will have as an adult.”
— raw2082
" I do n’t have to worry about what biography will be like for my big cat , dog , and horse . I can verify they are provide for and treated better than in all probability 90 % of the world ’s kid . They have high - quality food for thought , the best medical care , luxury bedding , never any insecurity , a proficient , care family , and undecomposed social connections ( yes , even my cat loves visiting extended family and her dog cousins ) .
I ’m 36 and my married man had a vasectomy . We ’re also dispense with declining parents and have no idea how mass manage with kids and parents at the same time . "
— Willothwisp2303
7.“A 29F here. I’m a fence sitter. There’s something in me that really does want to have a kid, but I also like the idea of having the money and freedom to travel and have other experiences that kids can kind of hinder. But then, there’s that nagging feeling that when I’m old, I’ll regret it if I don’t have one. And I look at the amazing relationship my mom and I have and want that for myself with my own child, too. I dunno, man. Shit’s hard.”
— seeyou__spacecowgirl
" FWIW , our position is that you’re able to 100 % parent ' correctly , ' and there is zero warrant that your children will still be 1 . ) living near you in old age , 2 . ) have a close kinship with you in old old age , 3 . ) develop into adults that partake interest and commons with you .
Being tangible about it being a crap shoot of have a near kinship with children later in life help oneself us make our conclusion about no kids ( along with additional considerateness ) . "
— Flimsy - Math-8476
8.“I’m 41, and I think I missed my chance to be a mom. I’m devastated. But life happens. So…single and no kids. Just me and my dog in the house I bought…so my freaking dog could have a yard, LOL.”
— Sevenswansaswimming8
" Do n’t say never , peculiarly if you are devastated . My mom and dad had me at 40 and 47 . You could always adopt humans or more hot dog . Even be a foster parent perhaps . :] "
— originative - Might6342
9.“We’re dinks! Dual income, no kids! It’s funny because on my and my husband’s fifth wedding anniversary, we opened a box from our ceremony where we wrote letters to each other that were sealed away for years. I said in my letter I’d have had a baby with him by now. We both laugh into our champagne.[sigh]”
" Still gayly childfree . I ’ve often pondered how parentage would go for me , and there was always the prospect that it could happen or it would n’t , and neither result would inconvenience oneself me . By now , nearing 33 , I am happy to say we shall stay childfree . He feels the same path . "
— AmbitiousQuirk
10.“I’ve been with my partner for 15 years and we both have other goals. We were both teachers for a while, and we agree that kids can be fun, but we don’t want them living with us.”
— EnvironmentalPack451
" Been with my partner for a 10 , and we want kids earlier on , but felt like we just love watch over our babe niece and nephew . Just having our niece / nephew over for the weekend , the house is trashed in one twenty-four hours . Also , thinking about the headache when they grow up , did n’t seem like something we wanted to do . "
— Alive_Ad1256
11.“I’m a 36-year-old married F, and I have no desire to have kids. If finances permit, I would love to foster and/or adopt someday.”
— GhostPepper87
" I ’m in the same boat as you I have firmly decided I never want to be pregnant and if I am interested in parenthood someday , I would go the foster or acceptation itinerary . "
— Environmental - Eye373
12.“Got the snip in 2017. I’m 33 now, and I still have no regrets. I don’t mind kids, but it’s just not for me. It’s ironic because I’m told all the time I’d make a great parent, but not by people who really know my tendency to anger and impatience because I have worked on it a lot. I imagine having a kid would break me, and I don’t know how I’d react so it’s irresponsible to have a kid.”
— ruffroad715
13.“I’m a 32F and childfree. I have multiple friends with kids, I’m a godparent, and for eight years, I was a stepparent with my ex-husband. I’ve never wanted kids at any point or age, and I don’t see that changing at all. I’m currently living the dual income, no kids lifestyle with my partner.”
— nalgona - aly
14.“I’m 38 here, and my wife is 37. We tried and couldn’t, so it wasn’t much of a choice for us. That being said, we’ve accepted the dink life and are enjoying the benefits of guaranteed silence whenever we choose it.”
— jestermx6
15.“Turning 35 this year, married, and childfree. There are rare days that I wonder if I’m missing out, and then I see our friends and family with theirs. That effectively cements my childfree status. I was ‘parentified’ as a child, and honestly, I would rather regret not having kids than regret having them.”
— Right_Ocelot_2588
" We have two minor , but I have a suggestion from booster who do n’t . If no one in your immediate class has minor ( you ’re not an aunty , uncle , or old cousin ) , plan a party with fellow non - parent on Christmas Day . It seems to the Clarence Shepard Day Jr. the ' I wish I had kids ' feeling creep in even if the other 364 you are totally ambivalent . We had kids slenderly older than many , so we have experience with both situation . "
— itsl8erthanyouthink
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mention : Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity .
