" Having children has made me detest him . "
Note : This post contains mentions of abuse and suicide .
A while back, redditoru/dusty_ninjaasked the internet,“What is the darkest thing you have kept from your partner?“Several married people shared shocking secrets they’ve been keeping from their spouses — and some of them are heartbreaking.
Here are some of the most surprising ones:
Note : Some responses are taken fromthisReddit thread and from BuzzFeed Community submissions fromthispost .
1.“I regretted getting married. I never wanted it, and I feel like she pressured me into it.”
— uracil / SniffedonDeesPanties
2.“I’m afraid to tell my husband that before we met and got married, I was hooking up with a married man.”
" It find at a time when I was n’t in a good place ( I know it ’s bad what I did ) . Even if my husband is not judgmental at all and does n’t care about past behaviors , I ’m afraid he might see me differently . "
— tidissik
3.“That having children has made me hate him.”
4.“I have two children she knows nothing about.”
" experience two missy meaning in high school , and they both want nothing to do with me . That was over 20 years ago , and I ’ve known my current married woman for about seven years . One kid break in a car clangoring , and the other , I have no idea about . "
— uracil / GuidedArk
5.“I never told my wife that her mother tried to have sex with me.”
" It was early in our wedding , when we were hold up with her to pull through money for our own office . Her marriage ceremony of 28 long time had end badly , and she was emotionally fragile . She was very drunk and was dead horrified at what she had done when she sober up up . I anticipate not to ever tell my wife , and I never did — even when she and I were struggle near the end of our marriage . Some things are too cruel to do , even when you ’re trying to suffer each other . "
— u/46from1971
6.“I love my husband and am so happy in our marriage, and I see it lasting for the rest of our lives. But my whole life, I’ve been able to cut ties with people without a second thought; I don’t want to do that with my husband, but the fact that I wouldn’t really be bothered if we did end up splitting is troublesome.”
" I ’ve never had an issue end relationships and moving on chop-chop . Not jumping into another kinship , but just totally skipping being sad and unfrequented , if that makes sense . I have n’t said that to him because I ’m scared he will take it the incorrect means . "
— carlsssssss
7.“I’ve slept with his boss — and I know he slept with one of his coworkers.”
8.“That I miss being single.”
" Less responsibilities , less elbow grease that you have to put into your home life-time , and you get the bed all to yourself . "
— u / Glickglickglickglick
9.“If it weren’t for our kids, I would have killed myself. The idea of leaving them fatherless or with some ‘new dad’ is the sole reason I’m still around.”
— atomic number 92 / Niplets
10.“We’re divorced now, but a few years ago, I slept with my wife’s cousin one night when she was in town and my wife was at work.”
" Not taking away from the fact I was haywire in doing that , but considering our divorce happened because my wife had cheated on me MULTIPLE time over the years ( she has acknowledge to ' several dozen ' times ) , I really do n’t feel bad about it . "
— uranium / Emcee_Such_N_Such
11.“Just how much I depend on her. For our first eight or so months of marriage, my wife and I were never apart due to moving around and being in lockdown. Even now, we’re hardly apart since we both work from home. She doesn’t know just how sad I get when she goes away.”
" I miss her so much , and all I really want to do is curl up on the layer and wait for her to amount back . I drop off my grinning , I turn a loss interest in all my hobby — everything . Once she suffer back , though , I ’m alright again . "
— u / solojetpack
12.“I hate that she compares me to her ex-husband, and I have to prove her wrong over and over again.”
13.“That I think he should have found someone who isn’t as broken and messed up as me.”
— [ deleted user ]
14.“That deep down, I really, truly hate her and what she did to our relationship. I’m only staying to get finances in order so the kids don’t suffer.”
" We ca n’t give two family . We get along fine , but romantically , my heart is deadened . "
— u / HydroSqueegee
15.“I really dislike his dad. He is misogynistic, close-minded, and verbally abusive. I wouldn’t be surprised if it even became physical by how much he hits the wall.”
" I do not want him around our children ( when we have them ) at all . "
— uranium / spermbankssavelives
16.“My debt.”
— atomic number 92 / captainselfaware
17.“Our premature baby died due to a weeklong cascade of events starting with her pre-term birth at 28 weeks. I’ve never told my husband, and never will tell him, that he actually caused my water to break. It was totally accidental, and he has no idea THAT’S why my water broke.”
18.“How much I hate his family for how they treat him. He doesn’t see the put downs and negativity and is very close to them.”
— u / Valiantlycaustic
19.“I have thoughts of suicide, but I can’t do that to my husband and kids.”
" I was stomach with only one deal . I have creaky arthritis in the one hand I have , and I jazz it ’s spreading . I have osteoarthritis in my lower back and scoliosis to the point where I am most probable lead to involve spine operating room . I ’m only 31 years old . I ca n’t do this for another 50 + years . I am in such risky pain now and it ’s only break down to get spoilt . I do n’t want my husband to turn into a caregiver . I ca n’t project not being capable to take care of myself . "
— u / OneHandedMolly
20.“I want to tell her how I feel, but I need to grow a spine. We are really just roommates with kids.”
" I have to get over what her reaction will be . "
— u / Fanabala3
And finally:
21.“That I haven’t felt the spark in a few years.”
Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity .
If you are thinking about suicide or just involve to sing to someone , you could speak to someone by call theNational Suicide Prevention Lifelineat 1 - 800 - 273 - TALK ( 8255 ) and or by texting HOME to 741741 , theCrisis Text Line . And here aresuicide helplines outside the US .
