" We did n’t involve ship’s company or an audience , we needed aid and pity . "
They may come to the hospital to touch their new grandchild , or perhaps introductions pass off over video chat . In the emotional rush , sometimes grandparent do or say affair that rub parents the wrong style .
We ask members of theHuffPost Parents Facebookcommunity for some of the rudest things that they have seen grandparents do when a new baby go far . Here ’s what they had to say .
1. Refusing to use the name the baby’s parents gave them.
“ [ My mother ] does n’t wish my Word ’s name ( Elijah ) so she refuse to call him by it . rather she would say ‘ That lilliputian boy ’ or ‘ That niggling baby , ’ as if he did n’t have a name . ” — China Shock
“ My Aunt did n’t wish the name I ’d choose for my firstborn Word ( Zachary ) so just decided to rename him and go on to refer to him as ‘ Joshua . ’ ” — Maria Harris
2. Being upset about not having been present at the birth.
“ With my 2nd child , my water break at 32 week , and I was on hospital seam eternal sleep until I hit 34 workweek , at which stage I was induced . Knowing that my daughter was break to be premature and most in all likelihood taken straight to the NICU , my ( x ) married man and I decided to keep it to just us at the infirmary during labor . We would have family get along once we knew she was stable and quick for visitors . Sure enough , she was shoot to NICU minutes after birth . We texted the family to allow them know she had arrived and was goodish , all thing considered . My mother immediately called me , furious that she had n’t been present for the birth . I told her that I needed to be supported , that we had been unsure of how sound the sister would be and that we needed to concentre on the baby . She argued that she had a right to be there and she would have stayed out of my way . I told her that this was about us being able-bodied to concenter on the baby , and the nascence was not about her or what she wanted . She screamed into the speech sound , ‘ Yes it is ! ’ and then hung up on me . She never apologized , and until the day she give way believed I had greatly wrong her . ” — Lisa Nodarse
3. Saying the family was less than prepared for another child.
“ During my third gestation ( which turned out to be a stillborn ) my stepmother - in - law submit that she was surprised I got significant again , ‘ conceive your financial post . ’ All that judgement was awful . ” — Jami Heeringa - Trivelpiece
4. Insinuating that a pregnant person has any control over the course of their labor.
“ I had a hard , 24 - hour toil that eventually stalled out . When it stalled out , we decided to wait until baby was quick to descend , which was the best choice . But it was unsatisfying , frustrating and painful without any reward . I was sharing my feelings with my female parent - in - law . Her only response was ‘ Think about what you just put Jerry through ! ’ ( Jerry is my husband . ) I burst into rip and cried for three straightforward days until labor take off again . ” — Samantha Haines
“ At least he does n’t look like a little exotic , like other preemies . ” — Bethany Ann Barnhart , Tennessee
“ Mother - in - law : ‘ I hope she get her dad ’s nose . ’ ” — So Yas
6. Expressing disappointment over the baby’s sex.
“ My former female parent - in - police showed up in my infirmary room within 30 minutes of me pushing out my fifth girl and assure me , ‘ It ’s a pity she ’s a girl . ’ ” — Angela LaRoche
“ On the birth of my second son , the very first thing my female parent - in - law said to me was , ‘ What a disgrace it ’s not a girl . ’ ” — Lor Raine
7. Expecting to be catered to like a guest.
“ My father flew to the hospital on my ex-wife ’s flight of stairs privileges , had my ex bring him to the infirmary , then got crazy at me for not being capable to help his then - girl find a place to stay for the Nox when she vaporize in . We have n’t spoken since . ” — Dinelle Sieradzki
“ [ They ] expected to be treated like guests in my menage while I was sleepless and in pain after a cytosine - section . I had Gemini and was read how to nurse for the first time . [ They ] anticipate to be waited on , clean up after . [ They ] could n’t stand / walk to get a baby , and did n’t remember how to change or burp a baby — so my hubby or I had to do all of that , too . We did n’t need ship’s company or an audience , we neededhelpand compassion … or to be leave alone so I could be topless and medicated . ” — Katie Hodge
8. Doubting a new parent’s abilities.
“ I led a novel mother ’s chemical group in Chicago . I had one new mom tearfully describe her own mother tell her thatsheknew her baby well than the new mom did . Modern moms are so vulnerable ; this was heartrending . ” — Lisa Ellis Kappel
9. Pretending nothing is different.
“ While I was lie in a infirmary bed 10 - plus minute deep into labor , I received a text about another family penis ’s hotel accommodation ( I worked hotels at the time ) and nothing else . No ‘ How are you ? ’ No ‘ Hello . ’ Nothing . ” — Katia Rodriguez
response have been gently edited for lucidity and duration .
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