" We literally arise up together . At that point , we had been friends for over half our living . And it was all exit in a Clarence Day . "
Recently, Reddit useryurivantaasked, “What was ‘The Incident’ in your friend group?” People replied with shocking and heartbreaking stories about what tore their friend groups apart — read them below.
short letter : There is a acknowledgment of pet violence / death in this post , as well as mentions of sexual assault , slaying , domesticated ill-usage , and child sex vilification image .
1.“A car accident. Four friends were in the car when it got T-Boned. It was totally the other driver’s fault; she was going too fast into a blind hill. Our friend in the seat that was closest to the accident died from internal injuries. The last time we were all together was at his funeral. We see each other around town now and again, we still have mutual friends, and we’re all in a ‘Remembering (friend)’ Facebook group with his family. But for some reason, we all just…never got together again. No one talks about it.”
— uracil / Its_Curse
2.“A friend of ours was talking to a girl on the internet. He went to meet her and got arrested. Turns out … there was no girl; it was one of those undercover stings where officers act like underage kids to catch men speaking to children. … He traveled almost 200 miles to meet this underage girl. It broke our friend group apart. Some tried to defend him, saying that it was entrapment; others, like me, cut all ties with him.”
— atomic number 92 / SpoonFed_1
3.“We found out that a friend had faked his death and assumed a new identity. This was because he used to be a drug dealer and needed to disappear to avoid arrest. This all came up because his girlfriend at the time hit him and then called the cops. Once he was fingerprinted, it all came up.”
— u / f0gax
4.“A friend’s dog ended up killing and eating another friend’s smaller dog.”
" tell dogs were a yorkie and a chow - Chow dynasty mix . They get them out together to play at the chow possessor ’s curtilage during a high shoal reunion ( with a fencing between them ) , but somehow , the chow bust through and seriously mauled the yorkie . … When the Yorkie owner intervened , the chow attack him too and ran off with the limp dead body of the Yorkie . … The Yorkie possessor ask some stitches and involve the chow mix owner have his frank put down , and he refused . After that incident , nobody talked to him until he moved out . From last I heard , the chow mix finally did end up getting put down anyway after it killed a neighbour ’s qat in his new town . "
— u / Heroic - Forger
5."[The ‘incident’ was an] accidental discharge of a firearm at a Christmas party after [we were all drinking] alcohol. I was the intended target. The shooter got himself instead. For my health, I decided to change cities and friend groups."
" He intended to ' scare me ' because I made a jest , and he took it in person . But the firearm went off as he draw it . This guy had been my good champion since 7th grade up into our early 20s . "
— uracil / Rude - Consideration64
6.“Our friend, the perfect husband with a perfect wife and a perfect child …. had encounters with HUNDREDS of sex workers all around the country. He was traveling a lot in his car and had a second secret mobile phone. His wife found it, and there were literally hundreds of phone numbers for sex workers. He left, and there was no contact for almost two years, and then he came back, and now they are back together like nothing happened. WTF?”
— u / trauma_doc
7.“A ‘friend’ got arrested for sexually assaulting a nonverbal disabled child under seven years old at his job teaching disabled kids. He tried to enter a plea of insanity, but the judge refused to accept it; they are pretty sure it’s not his first victim. No one in the group saw this coming. I am unaware of anyone supporting him now, but when he first got arrested, some did think it was all just a mistake. He is dead to me.”
— uranium / cuddlycephalopod
8.“One of our friends got hooked on drugs and ended up murdering his ex-wife, one of our other friends. It was devastating.”
— u / Historiun
9.“My friend fucked my girlfriend inside my house, on my bed… This was the incident that separated us all; we were a group of friends of seven people, including my old girlfriend.”
— u / steri_ka
10.“I discovered, after a few too many inconsistencies in stories told, that one of the group was wanted by the state police for mail fraud, and had been using a fake name with us. I wound up getting a copy of her priors along with a mugshot and sent it out to everyone at once. A few months later, we found a story about her arrest.”
— u / rekoil
11.“We were in school when this happened. … We were at lunch and found out one of my friends had a knife, and he was going to kill this one kid because he was ‘annoying.’ … I had no choice but to tell on him. I only did it so he could get the help he needed. … My other friends got pissed off at me for doing it.”
— u / Warioandwaluigio
12.“It was my friend group/D&D group. Last year, literally three days before our next session, I got a message from a former player… with a link to a news article from a paper in our state capital that her ex had been arrested. I read it only to find out that he had been arrested for being in possession of HUNDREDS of images of child sex abuse images. We killed his character and made sure the rest of the group and even our local game store knew. He is banned from the store, and we haven’t seen him since. And if he’s smart, it’ll stay that way.”
— u / Solenthis87
13.“A former friend of the group had a mental breakdown, assaulted his sister, and declared himself the second coming of Jesus.”
— u / Fhaquons
14.“A friend asked all of us to be bridesmaids at her wedding. She let us buy dresses and get them altered, then got married in her backyard alone without telling any of us. We found out when the wedding pictures were posted on Facebook.”
— uranium / heysmilinstrange
15.“I had a short-lived fling with a girl in my old friend group, and I called it off because she was going around telling people very personal things I said in confidence about myself and my mental health (that had literally nothing to do with her). I was drinking at home one night with my roommates, and she stopped by (she was friends with my roommates before and after all this).”
" I decided in my very drunk state in a instant of clarity that A ) I did n’t want to be around this cleaning woman , B ) I did n’t want to say anything I ’d afterwards repent , and C ) it would be for the good if I just grabbed a glass of piss and start to log Z’s .
As I ’m just shine at peace , booze hitting me pretty hard , my bedroom door open up , and the char say she just want to talk . In more and more impolite and even hostile tone , I kept state her to please leave , leave now , get the fuck out , I do n’t want to talk to you , I ’m drunk , just allow for me the nooky alone , and then passed out . She decided it was okay to spend the night in my bed even though she was repeatedly enjoin I did n’t want her there . She was utterly serious , and I definitely was n’t , and she could ’ve gone back upstairs or run low home any clock time she want .
I was blanched [ the next Clarence Day . ] I was extremely wild . I go ballistic and called her out for her disgusting doings and tell her I never want to see her again . But apparently , I was the bad guy in all this , except for two out of like a 12 people who stay on friend with me after this . "
— uracil / HeroToTheSquatch
16.“My friend A was clearly not mentally well and became obsessed with friend B. A was always going to B’s house and always calling and texting. It got to be a bit much, and B wanted distance, but A couldn’t take the hint. A got a little wild, and B ended up needing a restraining order. I was still close friends with both of them for a while after that, but it kind of demolished our large friend group. That all went down about 14 years ago. Last I heard A got help and got her shit under control. I think they even made up at some point.”
— atomic number 92 / bigdreams_littledick
17.“I’ve had a group of buddies — four of us total — since high school. We all ended up in college together. I brought a woman into the friend group. We went on a few informal dates and would make out a little bit, but when summer came our first year of college, we cooled off. I got a girlfriend, and she ended up fooling around with a guy back home. It was really no big deal. We still remained friends with no hard feelings. One of my friends ended up hooking up with this girl regularly — a total FWB situation. I was glad. Now, there were really no hard feelings or jealousy because I was with my girlfriend, and she had my buddy to have fun with.”
" We noticed our third friend ended up getting really upstage and resentful . THREE YEARS LATER , on a road tripper , he become drunk and confronted my buddy . He was deadly in love with my admirer ( my pal ’s FWB ) and felt betrayed to find out my buddy was log Z’s with her .
We basically fetch this incident to ' Friend Court . ' All four of us had a trial and really gave our friend a piece of our mind . He was way out of line to be so confused about a privy crush he told nobody about and a crush on a woman he had no exclusive ' dibs ' on . "
— u / No_Party_6167
18.“My friend Bob’s girlfriend announced to our group of friends that one of our friends (let’s call him John) tried to kiss her at a party where Bob was not present. John denied that he did such a thing, and he said that it was actually her that tried to kiss him at the party, but when he refused, she became mad at him and said that she would ‘destroy his life.'”
" We did n’t have any test copy that either story was rightful , so half of our friend group decided to side with Bob and his girlfriend , while the rest of us sided with John . This created a divide in our group , and things were unearthly for a while .
But around two months after this incident , Bob find out that his lady friend was fucking a co - worker and broke up with her . Now , this still does n’t prove who was order the truth regarding the try osculation at that political party between her and John , but now everybody consider in John ’s version .
Unfortunately , this stimulate a big crevice in our group that never fully heal . Despite his ex cheating on him with a co - worker , for some grounds , Bob still believed in her interlingual rendition of the story and never essay to make amends with John .
Also , the part of our group that initially believed in Bob ’s lady friend ’s history assay excuse to John , but John never accept their apologies . He was wild because some of our Friend make up one’s mind to believe in an unsung girl ( she was Bob ’s girlfriend , but she was never part of our group ; we knew very little about her ) rather of believing him . Some of our friends who sided with her acknowledge John for more than ten geezerhood , yet they did n’t consider in him .
So , in the end , she did n’t destroy John ’s life as she call , but she destroy our grouping of friend . "
— uracil / yes_u_suckk
19.“I liked my friend (A) and eventually told her. I was sure she felt the same about me, but she said she didn’t. We stayed friends and continued on as if that conversation had never happened. A few months later, I met a woman (J) and started dating her. My friend (A) apparently did like me and was now jealous. A started stalking J on Facebook and sent weird messages to her. Things like asking what it’s like dating me, are we really dating or are we just sleeping together, how am I in bed…I asked A about it, and she lied, saying she hadn’t sent my girlfriend anything. I tell her I’m currently looking at the messages, and she loses her shit, so I block her. I haven’t seen A or talked to her since then. She started talking shit about me to our mutual friend (D), who believed her. D is also friends with J.”
" His roomy S ( also a admirer ) stood up for me , but D got mad at S , saying she was just standing up for me to make him mad , and then he move out . I mislay my friendship with A. viosterol turn a loss friendship with J , A , S , and myself . D finally see the truth , but it just was n’t the same any longer . My friendship with D started in simple schooling with a mutual ally , and we live a blocking away from each other . We literally grew up together . At that point , we had been admirer for over half our lives . And it was all travel in a day . "
— u / theFooMart
20.“We all worked at a popular fast-food restaurant together. A was a shift manager at my location and was married to D, another shift manager at a different location of the same restaurant. A cheated on D with M, breaking D’s heart and causing her to quit her job and spiral down a very dark path very quickly. D abruptly moved out with only the clothes on her back, and after about six months or so, she finally decided she needed to go back home to get all the stuff she had left behind. On the way back to her old house where A still lived, D died in a car crash. This happened six years ago, and I’m still not on speaking terms with A nor M.”
— u / Kandroviek
21.“One of the former members of my friend group started selling drugs to children and bringing them to his place to get high together. We knew he was a dealer, but selling to kids crossed a red line. One of us admitted to anonymously tipping off the cops about it.”
— u / Gorganzoolaz
22.“My three friends, A, J, and M, had all been friends for probably ten years. A and J were dating, but M was often still very flirty with J…sometimes in front of A. None of us ever said anything because A didn’t seem to care, so why should we? Then, A and J got engaged. One month before the wedding, M wrote a four-page front and back handwritten note to J saying all the reasons why she shouldn’t marry A and that M was the better option for her. We were all shocked and thought it was kind of pathetic. A and J uninvited M to their wedding. This was maybe seven or so years ago, and I’m pretty sure A and J haven’t spoken to M since. It was some wild times. It definitely all worked out for the best, though, considering I always thought M was a fucking creep.”
— u / PaisleyPerkins
23.“My husband’s friends wife-swapped a few times. Both were (stupidly) trying for babies at the time. One woman got pregnant, and they couldn’t be sure who the father was. She wanted to wait to find out; the other three pressured her to have an abortion. She spiraled after having it and ended up in a mental health facility for a few days. The next month, the other couple fell pregnant and kept the baby. The other couple didn’t stay together after the abortion, and they’re both still single, living in different towns, unable to find someone. It was all really sad.”
— uranium / pumpa_nickle35
24.“This fucked my school friend group to the core. We had just finished high school like the month before. C drove T home and sexually assaulted her in his car. T didn’t want to speak to the cops or let anyone else know at the time. T was going through a lot of trauma and asked others to let C’s newly pregnant partner know. That didn’t happen, and it caused a fight. … Our friend group never recovered. "
" This was years ago . I miss triiodothyronine and still desire to destroy one C , but regrettably , I have to esteem T ’s wishes and not make a public confrontation about it . "
— u / ChainsForAlice
25."[I was in a] group of about seven friends. My ex-friend D did something really wild one night in 2020 and five of us have not spoken to her since. My boyfriend (J) and I visited her that Summer because she was really lonely after moving two hours away to live with her cousin L at the beach. I felt bad, especially since it was her first time living on her own, and she was an alcoholic with a loooot of issues. We all started drinking a little with her roommates, but nothing too much. J and I have never been really heavy drinkers, so a shot and a drink was enough for us. Things got intense and the three of us (J, D, and I) ended up in her room. The three of us started kissing on her bed, and I ask D, ‘Is this okay?’ She says yes. J asks if she’s sure. She says yes and starts to undress my boyfriend. Then L barges in and yells that the two of us need to leave.”
" humiliated , we got our things and run out the doorway . We quickly booked a hotel and started to drive off . D ran out , intoxicated as Inferno , and begged us to take her with us . She started sobbing and apologizing , saying that she wanted this . We were a slight garbled and enjoin her to go to bed . She went back inside .
J and I pick apart out at the hotel . in effect sleep ever . I wake up to missed call option from her , cry out and apologizing . I ignore it and move on . My boyfriend and I have a fun prison term at the beach . Days went by , and I wondered about her — she typically posts her entire animation online , and I had n’t seen a thing since the trip . I looked up her visibility and saw that I was blocked . …
A few week later , I generate a message from L. … L apologized to me and said that D stimulate a big scene after we allow . She was bust things around the house and hitting L , all while outcry and telling her that she ruin her life . Then , she differentiate me that she barged into the room because D texted her that J and I DRUGGED HER and were trying to RAPE HER . L also told me that D ’s roommate K recite her that D prove to get K to put more liquor in my drink . K refuse . L was very confused that night because why was D begging her to let her go with us if we were trying to do that ? …
lambert told me that that was the last straw and told D she should move out . … D called her family line to pick her up , and she left . … Anyway , foresighted taradiddle short , our Quaker chemical group has n’t talked to her since . "
— u / pumpkinkin
26.“When the TSA escorted our friends off our flight, that was the beginning of the end. One of the girls in our friend group got hit by the pandemic pretty hard and started drinking/smoking during work hours and becoming really overall unhealthy. Since then, every public outing with her involved her becoming … belligerent or rude to strangers. Our group was pretty tight, so we put up with it and continued inviting her and her husband on group vacations.”
" return from one vacation , where she was see - sawing between being really stoned and being really agitated and rude , she got into an fracas on our flight of stairs with a flight accompaniment and another passenger . rent me be clear in saying this rider did nothing wrong , and the flight attendant was entirely justify in calling TSA to remove them ( her and her hubby ) from the aeroplane . Her husband continue pretty quiet and default on to fit along with whatever she said about her being the victim in all of this and how she was going to write to the air hose to get the trajectory attendee fired .
This retiring September , there was an upcoming trip involving her , and the rest of the group had an internal word where one girl fit to be the person to order her that she had changed , that she was a very ill-mannered person now , that she had serious issue she needed to work on , and that we were uninviting her to the trip and refunding her the tag . Contact with her has been minimum — and we in the protagonist mathematical group have comment an improvement in our social assemblage . It ’s lamentable because , before the pandemic , we all bring along enceinte ( I was specially close with her and her husband ) , but that last trip was the first substantial nail in the casket , and the rest of the nails came quickly . "
— u / thumbtax
27.And finally, we’ll end with a longer story: “Our friend group was a group of three. … There was me, Derek, and Rob. Rob was … usually the life of the party. Derek was a lot more laid back; just a good man but not really good with the ladies. I was kind of just there as the youngest and most immature. … Rob graduated way before the rest of us. Derek was next, and I was the last one left in high school. We all kind of drifted apart after high school. Derek joined the military.”
" Rob just kind of kept doing the same shit he always did in eminent shoal : cheating on girls , drug , selling drug , etc … I just keep working since I was the poverty - stricken one .
Around 2009 , my sis called me , hysterical , enounce that our friend Derek had go through away . It kind of stumble me like a splash of cold urine . I was astounded and in denial . There was no way … Anyway , I reached out to our old protagonist group ( Rob and some others who joined the group after they ’d graduate ) . They were n’t good people , so therefore , I ’d stopped hanging out with the chemical group . Rob just pull that kind of gang , and Derek was just one of those see - salutary - in - everyone type .
The report I was capable to piece together was this : One of the newly - join friends to the grouping was getting married , so this night was his bachelor-at-arms party . They start at a strip club , but another in the group suggested that they should terminate the night in the next state over so they could gamble at a casino . Derek went and seclude … a couple thousand in cash so he could pay for the stableman - to - be to gamble and perhaps some others in the group who may have been struggling at the clip so everyone could be part of the solemnization .
While at the strip club , one of the professional dancer noticed that Derek had a lot of cash . … She started to be surplus clingy with him and finally postulate what he was doing when they were done . He told her the plan . Well , she wanted to tag along and just hang with him while everyone else was partying it up since he was more laid back . … He agreed , and the architectural plan was for her to leave employment , go home , and change , and they could pick her up there .
Once they got to her place , he knocked on the room access . The dancer ’s young man was waiting to lurk my buddy for his Johnny Cash . He ran around the side of the house and strike him square in the face . My chum was two sheets to the current of air at this degree , so there was no bracing for the hit or any expectation of anything other than pick up a cute miss . He went down like a sack of potatoes and land straight on the back of his head . He was hemorrhage everywhere , and the ' friend group ' all finally noticed what was going on , and they ran out to help him .
They bring him back into the railway car and drove him home . They had to beat back retiring THREE hospitals to get to his sign of the zodiac . He was unconscious and bleeding all over the back of the car . They got him home , a whole time of day away from where this all happened . He did n’t live in our hometown any longer , so they took him to his female parent ’s firm . They left him on the couch and severalise his mother that he just had a peck to drink . ( They must have strip him up by this point . ) She give thanks them for bring him home ' safely . '
The next forenoon , it was get latterly into the Clarence Day , and Derek ’s mother got worried and taste to wake him up . He had overtake away in his sopor . His mother and babe never really got over the whole thing . He really was a shining light in the life-time of many , myself include .
I was n’t there , so some of the information I was given I ca n’t really take to heart , but a pile seem to conceive that this was all a setup , and when they look at him to his mother ’s house , they knew they should n’t have . They just want a prompt cash grab , I guess ? I never thought a few thousand dollar was deserving our friend ’s spirit . I still think about him today and how I have n’t seen his female parent or his sister in years . They do n’t live in the same house anymore .
The funeral was the last prison term we were all together . … I do n’t really speak to the radical anymore . As a matter of fact , when someone from those early mean solar day in my life asks about our sometime group , I get kind of wild and upset inside and wish I knew what really befall and why the perdition they decided to disregard medical care for someone who would n’t have done the same to them . "
— u / RedcrosKnight
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