" It sound like both of you postulate to work on some ego control . "
I’m sure we’ve all had our fair share of saying something in the moment and feeling guilty about it later…
So, when I was scrolling onlinethis threadin the “Am I The Asshole” subreddit caught my eye. It’s about a man calling his wife a piece of sh*t for eating her kids food… Here’s what went down:
BTW : Am I The Asshole is a discussion Thomas Nelson Page on Reddit where drug user ask for advice on whether or not they are the SOB in the situation .
“I (40m) and my wife (35f) are taking our two children to McDonald’s for dinner. When we get the food we return home and our children go to wash their hands before eating. I then see my wife reaching her hand into our eight-year-old’s Happy Meal box.”
“I asked her what she’s doing and she said she just wanted a nugget. I told her not to because he only had four nuggets, plus we are both on a diet at the time. She stops and I leave to wash my hands and help the kids open the new soap bottle because the old one ran out.”
“Once I open it I wash my hands and I walk back into the kitchen. I see my wife licking her fingers and when I look beside her I notice the Happy Meal torn apart and all four of our child’s chicken nuggets were gone.”
“I asked her why she ate his nuggets and she said that the salad she had wasn’t enough, and that she couldn’t resist her urges. She then said that four chicken nuggets wouldn’t affect her diet.”
“I yelled at her that it’s not about the diet but that you ate our eight-year-old’s f*cking dinner. She replied that he still has fries and apple slices, and that he can share with his older brother.”
“I told her she was a piece of shit for eating his dinner and she ran off crying saying that I’m a horrible husband. I don’t see what I did wrong but I want you to let me know, am I the asshole?”
Of course, people had a lot to say…
A lot of people thought that OP (original poster) is not the A-hole:
" NTA . I ’m not sure what ’s worse , that she run through her small fry ’s dinner party or the ridiculous excuses she made for doing so . "
u / ap64119
" I do n’t usually support name calling , but her behaviour was repellant and ridiculous . Most mother would starve themselves rather than take nutrient out of their nipper ’s belly . NTA . "
u / marybry74
" If she was that hungry why did n’t she fix herself something else to deplete or go back to McD ’s ? "
u / d4everman
" SMH . If ya do n’t want to be call a POS , maybe … do n’t BE a POS ? "
u / AguaFriaMariposa
" Your wife ate her child ’s food ? She deal from her smaller youngster even though she had ordered food for herself and needed to misplace weight ? She ’s earthy . "
u / Mother_Throat_6314
" If a salad is n’t enough to fill her , the f*ck is she thinking that some small fry and half an apple will occupy a growing eight - year - previous boy ? My four - year - one-time Word eats enough to put me to shame sometimes . Your married woman needs to grow up . She ’s fix an abominable example for your kids . "
u / Condensed_Sarcasm
But others believed that OPisthe A-hole:
" YTA . Your finances must be mingy because I tell apart that poor homo stress . Four nugget ca n’t live up to anyone ’s thirstiness , so it ’s not like your son will go thirsty . You ca n’t say she ’s taking nutrient from his rima oris because it was n’t even on his plate . If your son is still hungry , well oops , make him a sandwich . "
u / coded_artist
" YTA . You think this was a normal reaction over Gallus gallus nuggets ? Name calling ? Who cares if she eat them , just get another . "
u / Desperate - Feature276
" I mean your anger was justified but your execution still piddle YTA . She ’s your wife . While what she did was wrong and rude and many other thing , you’re able to still treat her with respect . you may have a treatment in which she comes up with a solution , make the kid dinner party or goes to get him a new one , asks how she can make the kid feel best and apologises . you’re able to be firm and express your ire without name calling . "
u / Preciousgirl2019
And then there are those who believe that everyone is the A-hole:
" That ’s not how you pass along and resolve conflict . That ’s why ESH , and quite honestly I do n’t care that I ’m getting down vote because it ’s dependable . They ’re both assholes , and I go for they get it together for their kid . "
u / Puzzled_Juice_3406
" To me this is an ESH billet ( though I intend the momma sucks much , much worse for run through the pitiable kid ’s dinner party ) . I just could n’t conceive of calling my married man a name like that . I would certainly tell him clearly that his behaviour was extremely shitty though . "
u / AdelaideTheGolden
" ESH . Yeah , that was not correct of her to do , but prognosticate someone , especially your wife a POS is not o.k. . Also , your whole tone just reek AH . You both sound insufferable . "
u / peri_5xg
" credibly should have just pass her the keys and asked her to go replace them but I get why you were frustrated . Bringing up her dieting is unearthly though and you could have communicate in a more measured fashion . ESH but your married woman more so by a fair grade . "
u / i_arent
" ESH . Your wife should never be eating your kids whole meal , full stop . However you instantly stick out to calling her a piece of shit instead of either explain why it ’s so f*cked up or hold back for the tiddler to go to bed and get an grownup conversation . vocalize like both of you call for to work on some ego control . "
u / Kovz88
My take? I don’t agree with taking food away from your child in order to curb your own hunger, but come on, we’re all adults here, if someone respects you they shouldn’t be calling you names. In conclusion: I think everyone has been a bit of an A-hole here.
remark : All submissions have been edited for distance and/or clarity .
