" My ex ( who I am still good friend with ) always said he was creepy … she was right . "
Recently, wewrote aboutwhy friend groups fell apart, and members of theBuzzFeed Communitysubmitted their own examples. Here are 29 more stories of how friend groups ended in flames.*
- Along with some resolution from theoriginal Reddit screw thread .
billet : There are mentions of intimate assault , suicide , dependance , shooter fierceness , child sex abuse images , domesticated abuse , and brute abuse .
1.“I was sexually assaulted by a guy at a party in high school. Apparently, one of my ‘friends’ had a crush on him for years, and it really struck a nerve. She spread countless lies and rumors about me being a slut and throwing myself at him while I was just trying to work through the traumatic experience. This obviously created a friend group divide, and everyone decided to play Switzerland and not intervene. Needless to say, I’m no longer friends with anyone from high school.”
— u / ExoticPeace7222
2.“I had a friend from elementary school through after college. I trusted her completely. I left my dog with her for a weekend while I was out of town. She was excited to have him. I got him back a couple of days later with a DIY haircut courtesy of my friend. He was not in need of one, but she took the liberty, and he had open sores on his skin when I picked him up. There was no water, no food, no AC or fans on in the house, and it was midsummer. She had left him alone to go off and do whatever. I almost called the police. When I went off on her and cut ties, she took our college friend group with her without a single one of them reaching out to me. I don’t know what she told them, but it was one of the most bizarre and upsetting experiences of my life.”
— problematik
3.“We had been friends for about seven years, since high school. There were six of us, but two girls (L and D) were inseparable. L’s mother had a stroke and almost died. She was in the hospital in a coma for several months — close to a year. During this time, C and I (who were pretty close to L) went to visit her mother a few times in the hospital. D was always invited, and she always said she would come, but she didn’t visit once. She always missed the visits due to being either hungover from clubbing the day before or visiting her girlfriend (who lived 20 minutes away WALKING DISTANCE from the hospital where the mother was), and she didn’t bother to make the trip. The other two friends of the group visited as well. This led to our friend group breaking.”
" C and D went their own way , and the rest of us discontinue talking . I have a coffee with L from time to time , and a year after the mother recovered , we were suffer coffee tree , and she told me that D not only did n’t visit but also never even write a fucking content through FB / Instagram / WhatsApp to ask how L was . When she require her best friend the most , D just fly from her lifespan . "
— u / MSBeatles
4.“One of the group shared a screencap of his laptop in the group chat. He hadn’t closed down his porn tabs which included searches for children. I called him out on it, he went fucking ballistic. Calling me nonstop and shouting abuse, sending hundreds of messages a day. After I blocked him, he got new numbers to do it all over again. I had to report him to his local police station with the screencaps, which apparently wasn’t enough evidence for them to act. Afterward, he threatened to find me outside my office (we live in different cities). I had to report it to the police (and I fucking hate the police) and get a restraining order. I have no idea why he would want to attract police attention to himself. After chatting to some old acquaintances from college, it turns out that similar things had happened with him before. After that, the group just petered out.”
— u / Quack_Candle
5.“I had a friend who liked to make up ridiculous stories about boring events. It was annoying but never that bad until it was suddenly REALLY bad. She was sitting in a corner at a birthday party feeling bored and ignored, so she made a post on FB accusing another friend’s boyfriend of hitting his kid and other kids, which was a blatant lie. She blocked everyone at the party from seeing the post, but she forgot to block a few people who weren’t at the party, so they sent screenshots, and things blew up fast. I haven’t seen or spoken to her since, and neither has most of that friend group.”
" The affair is , thing were somewhat contentious with his kid ’s mom at that time , so this could have really caused him some prominent problems if the awry hoi polloi had seen it . So it was n’t just a miserly thing to say ; it could have had serious ramifications , all because she was n’t the gist of attention . "
— skilletgirl81
6.“A member of my friend group served five years for distributing porn, including child sexual abuse images. When he got out, some members welcomed him back, saying he’d done his time, paid his debt, etc. I have children and asked that I be told if he’d be attending an event so we could stay home. I walked in one night, saw him, and walked us all right back out. Nobody had warned us, although several people knew. They thought I’d ‘get over it.’ Some women were uncomfortable, so they and their husbands began to stay home. It tore apart the group, but my kids come first. It’s my job to protect them.”
— Anonymous
7.“A few days after I gave birth, one of my best friends (and her baby — she was pregnant) suddenly passed away of multiple blood clots. She’d been having headaches for a couple of weeks, gone to the ER, was told it was just pregnancy stuff, went back two days later and was admitted, then two days after, she was put into a medically induced coma, and the next day, she was brain dead. Her mom is taking legal action against the hospital for blowing her off the first visit, but I’m not super in the loop about it. The seven of us hung out twice after: right after her funeral and once more to pass out jewelry her mother gave us (some from our friend, and her mom also had bracelets made for each of us). I’m still very close to three of them, am friends in passing with two, and don’t really talk to the last. It’s hard sometimes, but we couldn’t all be together without really feeling that she wasn’t there.”
" My Kyd is almost four now , and I miss her every day . "
— u / LeeVH1
8.“I had a friend group that was based around racing motocross bikes. We raced, went to the gym, repaired the bikes, and hung out together basically every night in the workshop, drinking, partying, and just enjoying life and dirt bikes. Then the the partner of one of group’s members was arrested for stealing hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of stock from her workplace. She was selling it on eBay from multiple accounts under the names of everyone in the friend group.”
" After that , no one trust anyone , and we have never talked again . I see them at the motocross racecourse on subspecies day , but we have never talked to each other since . "
— u / nicola39726
9.“A friend of mine broke up with her fiancé after he hit her. He lost it and posted nudes of her online. So she pressed charges against him for both things. He had been to jail previously. She knew this but believed him when he said it was petty stuff. It was not — it was things like aggravated stalking and terroristic threats. He was afraid of going back to jail, so he kept calling and messaging her, saying if the police found him, he would shoot himself before he would go back to jail, so she needed to drop the charges.”
" She never replied to him ; there was a protective monastic order , and she was n’t supposed to , and she was also just over it . She was in a group chat with all of us , talking about how exhausted she was by it all . Then she go placid for a while , came back , and distinguish us all that he had shot and killed himself when the police showed up . It was awful . She blamed herself , his menage pick her , she got harassed by people who scarce have intercourse him and wanted to be part of the dramatic play , and it rifle on and on . The local mass medium obviously hyped it for all it was deserving , and that did n’t help either . We rallied around her as best we could , but she had to work through a lot of it on her own . Luckily , she has a very supportive family , and she was able-bodied to get into therapy ahead of time on . "
— u / MarlenaEvans
10.“Junior year of high school, a new girl joins our friend group. We had a solid core of friends who’d known each other for years, as well as a bunch of new kids who’d come in each year. She quickly became a huge focus of attention. Super chatty and friendly with everyone, but after a few months, things got really toxic. She’d been listening hard to anyone who had a bad day, finding out the dark shit they’d been through, and one day started talking about all of HER shit. Which just so happened to be exactly what every person had been through but worse. Someone in the group got sexually assaulted; now she’s got a story about being gang-raped. Someone found their friend’s body after a suicide; now, she witnessed a family member die by suicide. On and on, adding details to make herself more pitiable, until the group had fractured into people who recognized the bones of their events under her dramatized retellings and those who bought her BS.”
" Those of us who were hurt wanted her out of the radical . Her flunky wanted to devote all our clock time and vigour to ' supporting ' her . finally , we yell a grouping group meeting and confronted her on her lies , pointing out repugnance in her taradiddle and how she ’d stolen and warped actual traumatic events from the group for her benefit . She denied it all , and that was the end of our group . We split off , and there was no contact between the groups . Friends who ’d known each other their whole lives now just glare across hall and classrooms . She moved by at the end of the year but strung her follower along over Myspace and texting . Last I hear , she was ' living on a plagiarist ship in San Francisco , ' make euphony albums for the magnanimous label ( when she could n’t channel a melodic phrase in a pail ) and doing top - secret black ops ( cause she ’d been a child undercover agent ) while ruling as a queen in the astral plane . The friendly relationship she blew apart never reformed , and I ’d bet , hold her dogged decision to keep up her claims from literally thou of miles away , she ’s pulling the same stunts wherever she is now . "
11.“We played D&D together with W. Then one day, the morning after a game, his wife messaged us from his account saying they’re getting divorced and he’s just gone. Turns out W had decided to sexually assault one of his kid’s preteen classmates on the regular. He’s dead to us now.”
— u / MapleGoesInEverythin
12.“I broke our friend group apart. I got hooked on drugs while everyone went off to college, and I felt stuck at home. And when they came back and wanted to hang out, I was too far gone. They offered to help me out of my addiction, but I couldn’t accept help then. I wish I could go back and apologize then, but all I can do is apologize now and message them every once in a while.”
" I still miss them , and I ’ve never made acquaintance as tight as them because I have a neurodivergence , and making friends is really hard for me ( part of why I start using in the first place ) . But I ’ve go more comfortable with myself over the year , and I ’m felicitous now , even though it took a long metre . "
— adrienoelle2258
13.“I was in a big friend group made up of the people who stayed ‘townies’ after high school for whatever reason. My ex (who I had stayed friends with) introduced me to his best friend, who had gone to a different school, and we started dating, which led to me bringing my friend group into the mix, which formed a few new couples. For a while, it was great — until my boyfriend started abusing me. I was very young, and he was very good about putting up the front of being a sweet guy who just lost his temper sometimes. He was also exceptionally good at hiding/convincing me to hide any evidence of our ‘disagreements.’ After a year of physical, mental, and sexual abuse, I finally had the courage to leave him. The entire friend group turned on me, even the ones who had been my friends first.”
" When my ex-wife began stalk me and I file away for a restraining order , they devote written statements that I was unstable and a liar . Then , they initiate harassing me too . I eventually moved out of state to get away the perniciousness . It ’s been many years , and I ’m happy and healthy now , but it was a crush meter . Years later on , I pick up my X had been married and was getting divorced amid accusations of abuse . "
14.“My girlfriend has stage two cancer, and her best friend was seemingly very standoff-ish towards her for months after the diagnosis. I thought it might have been because said friend’s mother died of very aggressive brain cancer, so maybe being around someone with cancer sort of triggered her to where she wasn’t comfortable. Nope. Turns out she resents my girlfriend now because of how ‘privileged she is.’ My girlfriend still lives at home with her parents, who pay her $40/month cellphone bill (she’s on their family plan). That’s it. All this stems from my girlfriend being unable to work for the past year — she was told by friends and family to make an Amazon wish list so that friends can anonymously send her goodies. It’s mostly art supplies so that she can craft. This is what triggered this now ex-best friend.”
" She mean my girlfriend has it ' so good ' that she should n’t seek assistance from others … despite others telling her to do so . I say good riddance . "
— atomic number 92 / Son_of_Ander _
15.“One of us found religion. The guy who coerced his girlfriend into a threesome with his cousin stalked numerous girls, including following one to another state. … The guy who came to visit me after my Mum passed and after I said, ‘Well, I guess she is in a better place now,’ had the guts to say, ‘Well, maybe…’ I almost laid him out. He got chased out of a church for being inappropriate with the pastor’s daughter, yet insisted it wasn’t his fault. He became a right winger, irresponsible gun-owning (No training, no proficiency practice, no safety precautions, carrying a gun in his kid’s diaper bag to Chick-fil-A…), and denying all the past shenanigans he had initiated. I get it; people change — religion can be a chance for a new start, but seriously, don’t be a jerk about it. My ex (who I am still good friends with) always said he was creepy…she was right.”
16.“There was the time one guy’s girlfriend broke up with him on St Patrick’s Day, and he got kicked out of the bar for trying to fight the bouncer. And then he sat on the corner of the street for 20 minutes crying, decided to walk eight miles to go fight the other guy the girl left him for, and was tackled by his dad (after everyone that knew him gave up trying to control his behavior and called his family). The cops brought him back to his apartment hours later and gave us all business cards to call in case he had a breakdown again.”
" There was the clip the same guy rope got off work as an armed security guard and came home to where we were all pre - gaming and decide it was a beneficial idea to pass around his military service firearm . A cleaning lady one of our friends take squeezed the induction and put a hole in the paries , and the cops came to peach / lecture us on grease-gun safety because she depart about two minute of arc after the gun went off . They did n’t even stick around to see if the people down the stairs were fine .
And who could bury when the same bozo , still pee-pee off at the other guy rope for slip his girl a year after and after they come apart up , decided it would be a overbold thought to make an ' anonymous ' threatening phone call to recount the other guy he ’s still mad and is going to shoot him — from one of our roommates ' cellphone . About 10 minutes after I bring home from work , I had a very unfriendly swat military officer force my face into the very marked-up carpet after I ’d just taken two bong score straight to the dome .
We stopped lecture to him after that , and it was a very tense three calendar month until our lease was up and we graduate . "
— u / smr312
17.“My friend group went out to the club one night. I wasn’t there because I had to work early the next day. One of our friends got roofied and told the rest of the group she was sick and needed medical attention. They thought she was drunk and proceeded to drag her to another location, leave her unattended while they went to screw some guys they met at the club, and then drop her off at home afterward. My friend took herself to the emergency room in the morning and was tested for drugs, which were found in her system, and she never spoke to any of us ever again. I don’t blame her. I never spoke to anyone involved again, either. Who needs friends like that?”
— u/-Bag - of - Dicks-
18.“A friend married a guy after a few years. The guy was integrated into our friendship group. The guy and our friend divorced after the guy said he no longer wanted kids. Then, the guy and his ex-wife’s best friend hooked up nearly immediately (the best friend was also in our friendship group). Both the guy and best friend dropped out of the group; a few years later, they had a baby.”
— u / MuayJudo
19.“On a Tuesday evening, a couple of hours after school, we (our group of 16-year-olds) met at our friend’s kitchen table, like we did almost every day that year, to chuck a couple of beers and wait for the day to be over. Their parents and two grown-up siblings were also present and already deep into the hard liquor. The doorbell rang, and the police entered, asking where the horses were. Then, they arrested my friend and his dad after a couple of questions. The horses get liberated from the meadow, and minutes later, the police came back to arrest another friend.”
" Turns out they were abusing / molesting / bang the families ' two manly horses , filming it on S - VHS , and then selling / uploading it over telephone dial - up on some sort of website . That was a get it on up twenty-four hours on so many levels . It shattered our group . No one go out it coming . … Our grouping never got together again , not even without those two ' friends . ' We fundamentally drift aside within days , and once it became public , any association became toxic , so most families up and moved rather quickly .
The last I heard , the ' cavalry - lovers ' were both married , one with kids . It ’s been some 30 + years now . If tomorrow someone were to come and tell me that one of them hold open another family in a root cellar , Josef Fritzl - Style , it would not surprise me at all . "
— atomic number 92 / TotallyInOverMyHead
20.“One night when we were teenagers, we went to the lake. There were four of us, and we ended up at this party. Nothing happened at the party — we drank, and like idiots, the older of us decided we were going home, and we left. We were probably 15; none of us could drive except him. He was 18. As we’re curving around the lake, we come up on the campground that had these women at it. I’m guessing they were between 18-20. There were three of them, and they were alone. We conversed with them for a brief minute and then went on our way. We get about a half mile from them, and the 18-year-old that was driving … says, ‘We should go back and rape those chicks.’ He was not joking. He was dead serious.”
" At this clip , I was in shock . I did n’t really sleep with him that well and had only hung out with him a few times . The people I commonly hung out with were very much hard-core citizenry , and I ’d check some shite by this age , but this shocked me .
I pull out my pistol out from my girdle and , in my head , say , if he turns this car around , I ’m going to let him pull into the encampment they are at , and then I ’ll make out how serious he is , and I ’ll shoot him in the fucking psyche . ( I was in the backseat forthwith behind him . )
Thankfully , no one in the car other than him was on board with that bullshit , and so he played it off like he was chaff . I bonk he was n’t . Who says that ? Who but someone get it on up enough to do it .
I never peach to or saw him again , and I wonder if he ever operate on to do something I could ’ve stopped that night . I do n’t know his last name , and I know that I could get it if I really try on , but part of me is afraid , afraid to see what may have been .
That ’s my incident , and it ’s stuck with me ever since . I ’m in my forty now , and I ca n’t go camping or force by a campsite without thinking about it , even if it is a abbreviated , fleeting thought . I just trust he never did anything we could ’ve preclude , somehow . "
— atomic number 92 / Flatland_Poetics
21.“We got in a car accident while we were driving to the airport. Nobody got seriously hurt, but I was one of the drivers and had to follow a police officer to the police station. None of my friends stayed with me. They took their (our) plane and left. I was young, scared, and alone in a foreign country for a few days while dealing with that shit.”
— u / Lo - pisciatore
22.“One of the girls (‘Melanie’) in our friend group got together with a guy (‘Richard’) who was adamantly opposed to LGBT issues and drove a wedge by trying to prevent her from attending the same-sex wedding of two of the guys in our group (‘Joseph’ and ‘Daniel’). We didn’t know this until Joseph and Daniel’s wedding when Melanie showed up by herself. She wouldn’t say why, but one of our group was friendly with her younger sister, and that’s how we found out what had happened. Until then, we’d assumed Richard was ill or too busy with work. He hid his bigotry well right up until then.”
" While the rest of us wanted to kick out Melanie and Richard straightaway , what ’s interesting is that Joseph and Daniel implore us not to because ' Melanie showed up , and that ’s who count ; plus Richard might come around one day , and give up them out might have the opposite effect of binding Melanie more nearly with Richard . Let ’s at least keep a line of communication open . ' Daniel also in private intrust that he sensed that Richard was see to it Melanie in other , more pernicious way and that Melanie might ask us one day if / when their family relationship break down ( Richard was pretty open about desire to get Melanie significant as soon as they could save up enough to get married ) .
As it turn out , Joseph and Daniel ’s gracious answer had the event of driving Richard untamed once he notice out that he was only being bid to thing thanks to Joseph and Daniel ’s kindness . He gave Melanie an ultimatum to trench our whole mathematical group or lose him . She opt him .
I sometimes wonder if Joseph and Daniel actually start the long game ( either intentionally or accidentally ) in help us ditch a bigot by driving him away with kindness , but considering how unspeakable the incident was , I do n’t conceive I should reopen that egress by asking . "
— uranium / nx01a
23.“There’s this one girl I met through work who we all refer to now as the Common Denominator. She introduced me to all her friends and my now-current boyfriend, who introduced me to all of his friends, so I am grateful for that. However, after about a year, her boyfriend would walk around saying how much he really disliked her and was planning on breaking up. None of us really understood why until we witnessed her get raging drunk and attempt to push him down the stairs to their flat in front of us all. On top of this, they would have screaming arguments whenever we all went out for drinks or dinner together.”
" She can not take for a occupation , and it turns out he was funding her entire lifestyle / flat / nights out and obvious weed problem . When she got flatus of her fellow asking us all for advice , she systematically keep apart him from us all and endeavor to turn us all against each other , even though ( the boys especially ) had been friends since primary school . She did this by create multiple group chat but excluding one mortal from each schmooze to make this sorting of narration for herself , as well as really evidently messaging us all from his bill , too .
We ’ve all remain solid friend and maintained our relationships with each other and our several partners . From what I ’ve learn , … he ’s mislay all his childhood friends .
We are all mindful this is an abusive relationship and have tried and tried to reason out with him , but he will just not break up with her . We have , however , always pronounce we will be here whenever he need us , but he ’s stopped reaching out to us no matter how heavily we ’ve tried . It ’s all a bit deplorable , but yeah … fuck you , coarse denominator . "
— u / Boisterous - Oyster
24.“The biggest ‘incident’ was my dumbass HS best friend. We went off to college (this was like 25 years ago) at separate colleges, and my school had a fall break in October, so I went to visit him and party at his school. The whole trip, he was such an asshole, like he was big-timing me and trying to look good for his college friends. Long story short, he took me to an off-campus party and ditched me there (like 15 miles out in the farmland) to go have sex with some girl from his dorm.”
" When I eventually managed to walk and hitchhike back to campus and get someone to let me into the student residence ( I did n’t have my auto keys since I did n’t think I ’d need them and all my dress and stuff were in his way or else I ’d have just provide when I got back to campus ) , I banged on his door at like 6 ante meridiem , and he was still defenseless with the fille . I cursed him out , grabbed my stuff , and drove off , and I literally have never spoken to him again . Oh , and I shout out his long - time girl , who was also one of my best friends , and let her know what was happening , and she go against up with him . "
— u / anon_e_mous9669
25.“It was a group of five friends: my best friend (F), my best friend’s boyfriend, his sister, my boyfriend (who was my best friend’s brother), and me. I was the new one in the group, and we would go out a lot. My boyfriend cheated on me for months, and my best friend failed to let me know. Her boyfriend pushed her to tell me the truth, but she refused since it was her brother. Her boyfriend gave her an ultimatum to tell me, or he would tell me himself. My best friend and her boyfriend broke up for good due to longstanding issues they never resolved, and he called me the following month to meet up. He spilled the beans. I confronted my best friend and boyfriend, and they both denied it. I dumped my boyfriend when his side chick confessed. That broke up our group for good. My best friend’s ex reached out to me, and we will be celebrating our 18th anniversary next week.”
26.“I had a group of friends in high school, and I got married and had a child shortly after. My wife and I struggled a bit financially, and I was starting to become stressed out and depressed about it. Us guys got together, and I talked a bit about it to get it off my chest. The entire group came to the conclusion that the best way to fix the financial issues was to abandon my wife and daughter. And it wasn’t joking sort of stuff, either. They really meant it. Needless to say, I do not associate with them anymore.”
— u / OkUnderstanding9627
27.“There were about eight of us living together: the core five from high school plus a couple of girlfriends (and myself with my boyfriend at the time). One of the couples got pregnant and then engaged — we were pretty stoked for him because he’d been through the wringer with girls in the past. But during the engagement, she became overbearing with him: clingy, temperamental, jealous, etc. A few of us brought it up with him, but he was in love, so it was no good. They organized a fancy baby shower and invited everyone and their dog. So we all got dressed up and arrived to find it was a secret wedding — but the bride was having a meltdown and decided that the girls were no longer invited.”
" So we were all standing at the entrance , invitations in hand , all dolled up and being tell that we were n’t welcome to our own friend ’s marriage ceremony . It was so fecking mortifying , the stableman did n’t even know about it and thought we had abandoned him . The group never really reclaim , even after they divorced . She created a divide between the men and women that was never there . "
— uracil / ARo0o0o
28.“My best friend found out I told her little sister I was a little concerned about her drinking (that was literally all I said: ‘I’m a little concerned about her drinking’). My best friend stopped speaking to me, and then the rest of the friend group followed suit. And then a year and a half later, she was dead.”
— annieddie
29.And finally…“We found out that a former friend in our circle had gone full QAnon and was in the January 6 riots. So that’sfun.”
— u / chrisdurand
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