" It ’s not a cocaine addiction ; I just have ADHD . "
We recently shared some ofthe wildest “you shouldn’t have said that” moments, and our readers started coming forward with their own experiences. BuzzFeed userssstege11573shared an exchange she had after getting a haircut: “I have a pixie cut, and after I was done and cashing out, I heard a mom loudly tell her daughter, ‘See, you don’t want to get your hair cut short like hers and look like a lesbian.’ I turned to the little girl (she was about 9) and said, ‘Dream big, sweetie! Being a lesbian is amazing!’ and walked out. #Pride 🌈🌈🌈.”
This prompted us to scour the internet for more. I discoveredthis Reddit thread, “What is the rudest assumption someone has made about you?“that has over a couple thousand stories to tell. Here are some of the most infuriating ones:
1.“People assume I’m lazy because I really enjoy video games. Bitch, I have a full-time job, house, car, wife, and dog. I also do most of the cooking, cleaning, dog-walking, and general chores around the house because my wife works crazy hours— lazy my ass.”
2.“Just because I have these muscular fuckular forearms, women are always asking me to twist the caps off of everything. The truth is I have really soft underhands, and caps tear me up.”
3.“People think I can’t possibly be smart enough to do my job (STEM) because I’m an attractive woman. (Not assuming here — I have had guys say this to me explicitly.) It does help quickly weed out the assholes when I’m dating, though.”
4.“I have ADHD, so I talk fast; I’m super tall and lanky and also suffer from all-around allergies. Multiple times I’ve been told I have a cocaine addiction.”
5.“Many people say that I must be miserable and hate my life because I have kids. Complete opposite actually but thanks.”
6.“People think I hate men because I’m a lesbian. Not being sexually and romantically attracted to men doesn’t mean I hate them. Sometimes, talking to my straight gal friends, it seems like they are the ones that do, lol.”
7.“I am a small female so people assume I am weak and when I do lift something that someone assumes is ‘too heavy’ for me, I get congratulated like a child. If I need help with something, I will ask for it; other than that, I appreciate the offer of help, but I got it.”
8.“People assume I’m mentally well because ‘I don’t look like I’m depressed.’ This one isn’t necessarily rude, but can be annoying after a while.”
9.“I used to strip and work at a bank. Because I had two jobs, people just assumed I was a bad stripper and also that I was easy and would sleep with anyone… Oh, and that I was a bad mom.”
10.“People often think I’m my son’s nanny because he doesn’t look like me. He’s blasian. I also got a lot of people asking if I knew my ‘baby’s daddy.’ My husband? Yes, I know my husband. People also assume that I smoke weed because I have locs.”
11.“I was hanging out with a friend, and it had been about a month after we had met, etc., and they said, ‘The best thing about you is that you’re happy being mediocre.’ This felt especially bad as I had just had a string of failures and was already pretty down at that time in my life.”
12.“I usually get assumed stupid or slutty because I have big boobs.”
13.“People sometimes assume I’m probably just some uneducated immigrant who can’t speak English. I’m Mexican; I drive a truck for a living. I make more doing this than putting my bachelor’s to use. I don’t talk much because I’m tired, grumpy, and depressed all of the time.”
14.“I had an emergency room doctor tell me I looked like an anti-vaxxer.”
15.“Someone thought ‘just because I’m ugly’ I’d date anyone.”
16.“A girl I met for a date on an app once said to me that I should see her again because a ‘guy of my height won’t have many options.'”
17.“I worked with a girl who came from a big family, and when I told her that I’m an only child, she went on a rant about how I must be spoiled and that my parents ‘fucked me up’ by doing everything for me… As if that’s the only outcome that an only child could have.”
18.“People think I am a weightlifter; therefore, I am dumb.”
19.“I was in Target and stopped to look at a really cute swim suit for a baby that was on display in the aisle. Two older ladies passed by, and one of them said, ‘She’s way too young to have a child’ — nose in the air. I was in my mid-20s, probably the same age or older than she was when she had kids.”
20.“People to me: No wonder you’re so depressed you’re a lazy millennial who thinks everything is handed to him.”
21.“People thought I was stupid enough not to figure out that the guy I had a crush on in middle school was paid to go on a date with me as a joke. 10+ years later, I’m still pissed. Though, based on how he’s doing now, I dodged a real bullet there.”
22.“My father and I were in Prague when we heard an English woman say to her friend about us, ‘They look so British they can’t be British,’ which I don’t think was a compliment. We were British, but I think that was a bit uncalled for.”
23.“That I was pregnant. Not only have I never been pregnant, I have tried over and over to become pregnant without success.”
24.“Just because I’m quiet by nature doesn’t mean that I’m shy, stuck-up, or that I have to be treated like a 10-year-old who never learned to verbalize. These wrongful assumptions are ridiculous, and I speak from experience.”
25.“My teacher was trying to make small talk with me one day, and apparently because I’m a weird, awkward kid, she asked, ‘You watch anime, right?’ Like, I’ve literally never watched a second of any anime, smh.”
