" If your relationship does n’t make you feel stronger , safer , and more capable to take on the ups and downs of life , you’re in the wrong relationship . "
Let’s face it, there’s no such thing as a “perfect” relationship. There’s always going to be something you and your partner will disagree about. From little things like splitting the chores to bigger decisions, such as whether or not you want kids, it’s not always “happily ever after…”
Luckily, there are ways to make relationships easier…but, there are also some unhealthy misbeliefs that can make a relationship more difficult. So, when Reddit user u/FunctionInitial3534 asked,“What’s a common misconception about relationships that you wish people would stop believing?“I had to share some of the best and most insightful responses. Here’s what these 17 redditors had to say:
1.“It isn’t always a love story 24/7.”
2.“That arguing in front of your kids is bad.”
3.“That your partner needs to be everything to you.”
" Nobody can be everything , and expecting them to be is selfish . I have a wonderful , loving , supportive husband who is my good supporter . But I still have other friends . I have interests that he does n’t deal , and vice versa . That ’s healthy . That ’s normal . We are n’t together 24/7 . We are separate people , joined at the center , not the hip . "
— u / MbMinx
4.“Don’t go to bed angry.”
5.“I am a 66-year-old boomer. A few years ago, my therapist gently brought up the term ‘codependency’ in one of our sessions.”
" I had always imagined the stereotype of this syndrome , at least in my own creative thinker , as being lonely , old , unfulfilled moms allowing their grow Son to live at plate and use them , as codependency . Turns out it ’s a bit more than that . I see codependency now as the hope that if you ’re ' just good enough , ' in whatever way that applies , it will eventually enlighten an unkind , unresponsive , controlling mate to suddenly ' awake up , ' realize how wonderful and priceless you are , and then CHANGE . "
— uracil / Extension_Many4418
6.“That if you love someone, you’ll never be attracted to someone else.”
7.“Opposites attract.”
8.“That you need to find someone who is hot.”
" Character count so much more than feel , particularly in tenacious - full term relationships when look commence to change and you start to go through the difficult parts of life history together . You desire someone who will support you on your hardest days . "
— u / Jolly_Llama2820
9.“That relationships are supposed to be hard.”
10.“Communication is key.”
" No . Consideration and COMPREHENSION is . you’re able to pass on how you feel all day , but if your mate does n’t consider and comprehend those feelings , then nothing is going to be solved . "
— u / Idk312312312
11.“That you should stay together for the kids.”
" tike are generally much better off with two happy , split parents than in an unhappy two - parent household . "
— u / Squeak_Stormborn
12.“Sleeping in separate beds means a relationship is on the rocks.”
13.“The idea that ‘no one is perfect’ means you tolerate poor treatment.”
" NO . ' No one is everlasting ' mean your partner will bother the dirt out of you sometimes and you will not see eye to eye on everything .
It does not mean they can be atrocious to you in any way for even 1 % of the time .
You do not digest : unkindness ; them claim out frustrations on you ; disrespect ; name squall .
There are probably other thing on this leaning .
A pardner cherishes you and see trouble as ' us vs. the trouble , ' not , ' you are the problem . ' ”
— u / Certain_Mobile1088
14.“That’s it’s normal to resent your partner.”
— uranium / seusical0xo
15.“That you have to share everything and 100% of your history with someone.”
16.“That you need a partner to complete you.”
" I really recollect that hoi polloi should be at a point where they ’re fully confident and happy with themselves before assay a partner to fill the voids in their lives . "
— u / J120101
17.“That you need to find ‘the one.'”
Note : reply have been edited for length / pellucidity .
